The e-mails are still coming...

And the girls are getting cuter and cuter.
Uh oh.

Ugh.

I should not be given so much freedom with options! OVERLOAD! OVERLOAD!

Restraint.

I said I was done and I will be so.

Erasing PastaBoy

Post By:Lady A

PastaBoy:

Plans for 12:30.

Location secured.

I arrive at 12:23.

I leave at 1:06.

I sent him a text to say that I have arrived and if i should secure a table.

No reply.

No text/call.

I get a table, thinking he may just be late and what not, no biggie-order a cappachino.

I text the dating-is-stupid support group.

"wait a bit longer he may be in the train" (he works walking distance)

"shit! call him!" (i did-and refused to call more than once)

I pulled out laptop and continued working on some "real" writing. (10 more minutes-tops)

when it reached 1:03pm, I put my things away and got up and walked out.

 

the waiter couldn't even say anything to me, just a small "awww-poor you-smile"

i was not visibly upset.

no, Lady A could NOT lose her temper twice in one week.

Saturday was enough.

I had ordered a coffee which was "on the house"- yay a free coffee. is that the silver lining?

If it had been the secret I would be worried something happened to him. knowing he has a shit phone and knowing that he would have manners.

but this was a first date.

a guy who asked me out. 

i went through the list of things that may have occurred:

a)he got cold feet (hello its just date 1,i just wanted pasta, not to marry you!!)

b)he passed by and realized that he "just is not that into me"

 (again-do you even know how to say my name properly??JUST MET)

c)he was asked to join the Ghost Busters and protect the Island from an invasion of slimy

    ghost!(Sir F can we have a marathon of ghosts??)

d)he was so excited to see me, he fell hit his head and is laying in a coma at some UES hospital

or 

e) he is an asshole

the correct answer is E.

he called me hours later, I was working already: he apologized over and over again. he was held up in a meeting, he didn't have my number on him blah blah blah

I was calm, did not say much.

he asked me out again, "i will come to Astoria-i will make it up to you"

umm hello, NO! 

"I am sorry we weren't able to meet, but i cant see you. the very least you could have excused yourself phoned the restaurant and left me a message. THAT i would have understood."

*click-dial tone.

i don't think i even said goodbye.

actually the conversation was quick and swift and i am still trying to block it out, so the details are fuzzy.

i received a few text and a voicemail i have yet to hear.

i really wish i could say this was the first time i was stood up, but sadly it is not. 

i think that is also why i flipped out so much last sabado. being stood up sucks.

*le sigh.

RIP PastaBoy. i wish you had joined GhostBusters instead, :(

text gone wrong

Post By:Lady A

I am hating text today.

I am hating my BB today.

anyone who knows me, knows I avoid saying the word HATE in any context.

Have you ever:

.....written a text,and instead of sending it to the person for whom it was intended for you sent it to the person you were thinking of/mentioning in the text?

I just did that. Now, Just to show that i do have things very private in my life, in the text i did not mention names, just a nickname-which re-reading makes this situation even worse. But my friends 1/2 the time do not know certain details, and know i am not willing to share them.

they also are cool enough to focus on :is Lady A happy? or is she upset?:

not to sweat the details.

somehow i am feeling like the boy in this situation and feel horrible. 

did i confuse you? good-i just confused myself.

Time is so not on my side. 

and p.s. kiddos-i have a date Sunday-if this is a bust (which how this TONY thing has been it may just be) i am done with it, for realz

"SHE's just not that into you..."

Post by:Lady A

...is that what guys/gals will be telling my suitors??

i mean how do i nicely, without hurting feelings, say :i am not that into you:

i am in the same boat with Sir F. i want to quit TONY, i am STILL getting emails,STILL!! 

(ok yeah you can so be like "shut up Lady A" right now)

truth is, i am not used to this attention. and i must be sending off a "single" vibe because PastaBoy came up to me on the train.

its the emails. its the corresponding. its the length of the said emails. its the amount of time in asking and answering questions.

i have a "top 3" which is now down to just one. mainly because i am lazy, and being a  procrastinator 

(i told you i am a lazy dater- i have done my nails TWICE in the span of a week-never do i do that!)

this "1" from TONY seems great on emails. lets hope there is a spark. but i learned last week that without spark.....i am not going to even consider a 2nd date. i don't want to waste my (or their time)

also. i kinda like someone *shhh its a secret.

and while timing has not been our friend. i am having a blast when i do see him. i mean, i light up like 4th of july fireworks when he cracks a joke.

yes, we have chemistry AND he makes me laugh=dead sexiness and then there is the 

"oh yeah, i like you"

but in the past i would have wall flowered,stuck around waiting for the time to be perfect. that got me no where, and those guys were all over the place, so this time, i will keep a lil white picket fence up with a lock, but its not a master lock and he is tall so he could just jump the fence. 

metaphor gone too long....

....moving on.

i am meeting PastaBoy for lunch manana: he choose a location which i have been wanting to try (which a co-worker of mine said was fabulous) i may even text them and have them "walk by' to check him out if they are able to.

i have drinks with my #1TONY pick before he leaves for LA (date tbd, but i assume next week)

*le sigh

my brain is full. i think i will start sharing my horrible limited dating experiences so you kids can have a chuckle. anyone ever met someone's 'rents on the first date? yeah well i have.

for now:

i wish Lady N some luck in sparks:

i wish Lady M some great vibes from CLpunkDude

i wish Sir F suerte with TheaterChica, and a hug. *i am overwhelmed as well. its ok. your still mad hotCUTEawesomeADORABLEtalentedSPECIALfunnyCARING and someone will fall into your life when needed!!!

(did i gas up your head enough???!!)

besos babies!!!

Craigslist Update

So, Mr. Craigslist just responded with this :

Well hello love and thanks for the replay

Yes... lets hang 10 this weekend. Im also free most nights after 6:30.
Hmmm why is such a cute girl like you single?

Will


He has yet to find out that I'm really a two headed monster..





He also responded with his myspace and dear sweet LORD was I surprised. He's a REALLY HOT MENZ, just my type really. I scoped out some of his pictures that he had. He was in a band, has some bangin tats, and beautiful eyes. ANYWAY, enough of my rambling...ha. It's a date this Friday and I'm nervous but really flippin excited at the same time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHH!!! This weekend is going to be stock full of awesome sauce!!

I think I'm done with this whole TONY dating thing

Post By: Sir F
I thought about this a lot today. I've had a lot to think about lately. It was fun getting the e-mails and going on the few dates I had, but I think I'm done with it.

I don't mean to be so cryptic, but I really don't think it's a good idea I continue.

Will this mean I'll stop blogging here? No.

But I think I'm going to e-mail these ladies and cancel.

Shit just gets so busy and I don't have the proper time. Plus a prospect at the theatre has grown more, so...yeah.

Doesn't mean I will cancel plans to hang out with the lovely ladies on this blog. Why? Because they're super fuckin' awesome people and I want to hang with them because it's hard to find good people to share these life experiences with.

Sir F is done with TONY dating.

Marginally bearable P

I met up with, god what the fuck is his name....Oh right, P, the klutzy Brit. We were going to meet in the Upper East since I had dinner plans up there afterwards and it was his neighborhood. We met on the corner and he looked up at the bar we were standing next to and said, "How about here?" I thought to myself, "Really? You live in this neighborhood and didn't have a place already picked out in your head?" It was a little bright for my taste, especially for a blind meet up, I didn't really want too many people to be able to see us. He noticed my hesitation and suggested we take a quick walk to see what else there was. We walked past Brother Jimmy's and while I was smirking to myself because a guy I used to date lived above this bar and we had many "last drinks" there, P stopped and looked back at the bar and said, "How about here?" I couldn't hide the snobby "you've got to be fucking kidding me" expression on my face. Bro J's is ok when you're hammered and having one more drink before you go upstairs to shag your man, but NOT ok for a first date! He said lets just go back to the first place and I agreed, just wanting to get out of the freezing cold.

To sum it up, he turned out to be a bit awkward in person and while he asked great questions and we had some things in common, I couldn't help but feel the strong urge to look at my blackberry and see if any of my other suitors had emailed me. Not a good sign. While he was talking I Iooked past his head, longingly at the glowing orange Brother Jimmy's sign and wished I was sitting across from J (the former man) instead. I was so relieved that I had dinner plans afterwards because 50 minutes was just on the line of bearable, 51 would have tipped it over to the -un side.

P texted me today to say he had a great time and hoped to see me again soon. Really? Why is it that only the ones you're not interested in are the ones that call?

Hot dogs and Ms.Pac Man

POST BY: Sir F

I had my second "meet up" tonight and it was a lot of fun. She chose to meet at Crif Dogs, which happens to be one of my favorite places to grab a bite.

She was cute and funny and we ate hot dogs and played Ms. Pac Man. It was a good time. Though, I think I might have the same problem Lady A had. I mean, I found her attractive and connected, but...I dunno. We're meeting for brunch in a few weeks.

She's really really cool and fun, but it might be one of those things where I'd like to hang out, but not date.

I know ladies hate when guys say or do that. But...I don't know.

I had a LOT of fun regardless.

I have a handful of meet ups to go and I'm trying to figure out what's going on with a few ladies at the theatre. Guess we'll see.
I still feel like I'm in over my head.

Date # 2

Ok, I'm meeting potential cutie # 2 today. I will not make the same mistake as my last date with S (not the boogers guy) and will NOT be leaving the island, and made dinner plans afterwards with a friend so that there's no possibility of the date going into overtime.

He sounded cute on paper, a Brit in his 30's (more of my age bracket) who told me he once accidentally locked himself in a moving van and had to call AAA to get him out. Stupid with a British accent, just my type. : )

Will post details later.

I <3 Carbs

Post By: Lady A

A special thanks goes out to Mrs.Bee for gifting me the "I *heart carbs" pin back in 2006

this morning while on the R, i thanked the powers above that i am short and small and able to squeeze in a full train.

as i stepped out at the 59th st stop and rushed to the 6, someone grabbed onto my shoulder, i was ready to turn around and use my purse to beat them to a bloody pulp, when i noticed a cute suit holding onto my long opera length knit glove (gloves really hate me right now-what did i do to them!! ugh)

so convo:

Me: *takes off ear bud(the smiths blaring) "yes?"

Him:"Sorry didnt mean to scare you, here. " *hands over glove

Me:*fumbles "umm thanks"-turn to walk away

Him:excuse me! umm would you like to go out sometime, like for Italian, pasta?

Me: *confused look, "Umm sure" find pen/paper jot down number "why pasta?"

Him:I read your pin, I love carbs too!

Me:*confused

Him: *points to neck scarf

Me: "haha i am sorry-i forgot i had that one on"

he walked me down towards paperlandia.

*le sigh he will be PastaBoy

ok never in all my years have i been approached like that! thanks for jumping ship GreenGlove!

No Deal

Post By:Lady N

I kinda went on an impromptu random date tonight. It was with this guy that I had met almost a month ago but just have been too busy to meet up with. I should add that from past experience, when I've been "too busy", it usually translates to if I liked you enough I'd have time, but with the only free time I have, I prefer to see my girlfriends. I was hammered when I met him, which should be another red flag, I didn't really remember what he looked like or what we even talked about at the bar.

So tonight he sent me a text saying we should grab a drink. Again, I said I was busy packing since I'm moving on Saturday. He said oh come on... And so I felt bad, having blown him off for a while, so I said I was planning on grabbing a quick dinner if he wanted to join me. He met me on the corner of the restaurant and at the very least he did look better than I had remembered. But I had remembered him to be not attractive at all.

We had a quick dinner, and I would say it was pleasant, but I should have gone with my initial gut instinct which was if I had put off seeing him for this long that I wasn't all that into him. To sum it up, he was really sweet. But he blew his nose at the dinner table. That's a deal breaker for me.

OMG When Will It End??!!!

Post By: Lady A

Why am i still getting emails to my TONY account???

omg i am going to have a break down. 

every email is funny and well written! but i cant go on 30+ dates! (no i really cant-trust me)

I made 3 folders :Into:Maybe:Not Into:

I read once and filter them into the appropriate folder. if they are weird i delete. I have shared a personal email with two of them now, jut because looking into my TONY email freaks me out.

i keep myself pretty busy, i think that is why i was happy being in the situation i have allowed myself to be in. i only saw him like maybe once a week. chatted/text/email here and there, 

and NOW i am being forced to go out more, and be on "point"

ok i just re-read this, i am being a baby.

too many emails. and the red light on my blackberry mocks me :/

In Over My Head

POST BY: Sir F

Not to sound like a big baby and lame, but I'm kind of feeling in over my head lately.

I'm generally pretty busy with the theatre and performing, but with the addition of the TONY stuff and trying to find some work it's been quite the juggling act. It's sad when I have to schedule dates from 3 weeks from now. I'm still getting e-mails too. It jumped from a few potential dates to about a handful or more. In addition to that, some ladies I had fancied in the improv community have finally been showing some attention my way.

I know. OHHHHH, POOOOOR Sir F!

Here's the dilemma. Some of these ladies I've talked to or met already are or seem fantastic and cool. I tend to fall pretty easy for women like this and it worries me. I don't want to become some kid in a candy store and make bad decisions and develop a bad rep. Sounds simple enough to avoid, but EVERYONE can identify with it in some way or another. Am I right?

I'm not used to this. I'm not really used to having this responsibility (yet it's a sense of freedom). And I'm not sure what to do.

Jesus. I'm pretty sure I sound like the biggest creep right now. I can assure you, I am not a creep. I'm just a man who is very capable of making mistakes like everyone else (I saw those Hammer pants you once owned!).

You've caught me on a very open and honest day. Don't be surprised if I delete this post in a panic tomorrow.
EEEEEYYYYYYIIIIIIKES!!!

First Date Down.101 to go!

Post By:Lady A

all went well. conversation flowed. chocolate fondue was shared. 

Lady N made funny comments and gave him a "10".

  he ordered some lovely proseco. 

so why am i not into him?

i didn't get any tummy-flies. i need the tummy flies.

and he didn't even try to kiss me. but he may have just been proper.

i got this from Lady N today:

"Lady A,
Ok- thought you might want to see this : )
Even though you weren't that into him, sometimes it's very flattering to
know that someone is very into you : )

How's your day going? Any more OtherTONY updates?"
-Lady N
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Creme Brulee
Date: Sun, Feb 22, 2009 at 2:34 AM
Subject: Lady A
To: Lady N


"Lady N,

Just wanted to say thanks again for making an amazing night just that more
memorable. The fondue was second to the sweetness of Lady A!! (cheesy I
know) She has a great friend and thanks for putting her up to this! (the
Tony's personal ad that is)

Ciao
Creme Brulee "

I was chatting with QueensPunkTourGuideBoy today, telling him about my highs and low last night, and i told him that i gave my "date" a b-day card since his bday is monday. My friend in so many words said i am too nice and give too much too soon. basically i am a card whore. and while its a nice gesture, peeps may read into it too much.

of course i have to like the guys who DONT put effort into me. i was crushed last night and technology & time was my enemy. I lost my temper. i rarely lose my temper anymore, i try to just view things for how they are and not waste my energy being mad. i mean come on there are wars and what not going on in the world-why should i get mad because i am in brooklyn at 1am and my calls are not being answered????? 

i wish i could just like the nice guys who order prosecco and laugh at my stupid jokes. 

BUT NO

i have to like the guys who i go out of my way for, and who have yet to truly take me anywhere.

:( bleh.

i need tummy flips if its going to work. if i try to make it work with no tummy flips, there is a good chance i may cheat on the person. and i am not a cheater-so lets not go down that path.

[the Giant gives me tummy flips, and i even have become nervous when cooking for him. (thats another sign that i am into boys-when i get nervous cooking for them)]

Date Planner: ARIES

Post By:Lady M

My birthday happens to fall on April Fools day which in turn makes me an Aries. The funny thing is, is that no one has ever played a prank on me these past 24 years. I'm hoping this year someone will! Anyway, according to the AstroTwins:

Aries are the zodiac's powerhouses, so asking them on a date can be an intimidating process to begin with. Don't let the tough or hard-to-read exterior fool you. Underneath beats the heart of a traditional--and rather sensitive--romantic who is a little afraid of getting his/her feelings hurt. Don't go overboard with the surprises. Aries is used to being in charge and will want to be a part of the planning process. They also like to put their best foot forward, and will want to dress properly for the occasion. Lady Aries may be a grrrl-power icon, but don't skip the chivalrous moves. Pick her up at her front door, bring her flowers and insist on paying for the first date. Tell her she deserves to be spoiled sometimes.

They pretty much nailed my dating persona to the tee. I do consider myself a feminist but I also enjoy it when a guy is chivalrous. What girl doesn't?


THINGS TO DO ON A DATE:

Take Aries to their favorite restaurants: these fussy eaters love to frequent their favorite joint- I'm not a fussy eater and I don't mind if it's just a grey's papaya hot dawg at 3am with a milkshake

Intellectual Aries love to learn so a lecture at a nearby university will stimulate a great discussion- Sometimes true but I'd rather check out a museum.

Aries can be party animals, so head to a club or house party. Just make sure you're always close at hand when Aries wants your attention. They despise being ignored! -Definitely true...anyone want to go to Santos Party House soon??

Action movies with fighting scenes can stimulate the warrior in Aries- More like horror films..chessy B horror movies films are always awesome. Or, anything with Bruce Campbell in it.

Many Aries are highly political, so check out a film or play about global issue Not that political. I voted for Obama and I listen Npr on a daily basis.

Poetry is an Aries favorite, so head to open mic night at a café and don't be surprised if your Aries steps up to the stage! I've been meaning to go to the nuyorican poets cafe...

Lady A:Klutz

Post By:Lady A

its only a meet up. just one drink.

so why do you ask am i in a dress???

Because dumb me spilled iced coffee on my black slacks. so i smell like a walking starbucks/dunkindonuts shop!!!

i forgot my perfume and forgot to step into sephora to sprtiz myself.

i have no clue were my jewelry is.

i almost poked my eye out while doing my make up. 

i bit into a pepper in my dinner and my lips swelled a bit-and not in the cute A.Jolie way.

and i just looked at my nails and boy do i need a mani (black paint in the edges.gross)

yeah i am so not a girl. 

thank goodness the lighting is low at the lounge,

ugh.

i just really want to chill on the couch and watch a stupid movie (which i never want to do) and drink beers. 

Hi. I'm Sir F and I Can Be Awkward as Fuck!

POST BY SIR F

Sorry about the delay but I've been quite the busy fella the past two days.

So I had my first meet up on Thursday night. I call it a meet up because we had just agreed to meet for drinks and chat. Nothing fancy. But what is a date anyway? Titles, titles, titles.

We agreed to meet a place near the theatre since I had to do a show that night. I suggested a bar near there that I frequent quite a bit.

I was a bit nervous because I hesitated meeting up since she's quite young. About 21. Does that make me skeezy? Should I get a tiny comb and stroke my molestache and brag about my camaro? Anyway, I figured I'd just go because we had got along pretty well via e-mail correspondence.

I met her out in front of the bar and she already seemed very quiet and shy. We had an awkward hello and headed inside. There we started up the basic small talk, but there was quite a bit of silence and hesitation.

Let me say this...I'm TERRIBLE at small talk sometimes. ESPECIALLY on dates. Every time it happens I can feel myself tense up and I'm screaming in my head "You're better than this! You're not a boring guy! You're fun with a group of people! Wake up! You're fucking up"! So there was a lot of that going on.

I feel bad because she said she was tired from working and having classes all day and here I was with not an interesting thing to say. I could almost see the disappointment pouring forth, flooring me to that cold defeated floor.

Then, two of my friends walked in. A sense of relief shot over me! Thankfully! Friends were here to help me out! To save me and bring out the super awesome guy I am! Did I mention I'm humble? I knew they'd get conversation moving and we'll get cooking. After awhile with having a small chat with them she was being quiet and wasn't really chatting back. She started checking her texts and that's when I realized I had made a mistake. My friends felt it too and then asked "Wait. Is this a date? Are we interrupting?!" They felt bad and then moved over to another table. I apologized to her and she said it was fine.

After a few more minutes of awkward conversation she decided to head out. But when she did she said she enjoyed it and gave me her number and said we should hang out again.

It was weird because I could have sworn she seemed uncomfortable and not into it at all.

I can't tell if she was being polite or what. She was nice and cute. I'd hate for her to have done that just out of some obligation.

Strange thing is, after that show I ended up hitting it off with a fellow improvisor I knew through friends and had just recently started chatting with. We hung out again with a group of our friends last night and we had fun. So, in a weird way, the night wasn't a total washout.

Next meet up is Monday. We'll see how that one goes.

Creme Brulee Wins!

Post By:Lady A

And it is only because i flipped a coin.

so i have my first "meet up". i decided to grow a pair and accept a face to face meeting.

we have emailed:we have text and now we shall meet.

but i am sooo cheating, and i feel bad for the poor sap already.

i have asked him to meet me for ONE drink at Lady N's place of employment, where i know CurlyHairCutie and BarBoy.

QUESTION:would it be bad if i have Lady N, CurlyHairCutie & Bar Boy have paddles and pretend its dancing with the stars, they can score him on looks-manners-how many times he makes me laugh/snort? I sorta wish Sir F and Lady M were there too!

moving on.

i am hoping it is a short meeting. he has plans to go to a party (but has already alluded that he would like to spend more time with me-whoa buddy we haven't even met-slow your roll)

i have work-then rushing to drop off a press kit-rush to moms to fix myself-rush to bar to meet him.

this is going to be interesting. and i have this blogger crew as a text message support group

i have never just been out there and "dated" i am too lazy to juggle more than one person. one is too much even at times.

but i guess i should do it: i have to-or else this blog will be dull on my part.

if i were to write a book it would be called this:

"dating with training wheels:the adventures of a recovering prude"
;) its a working title.

what would your book be called?


p.s. i hope he does not fall in "like" with me in the first 5 minutes. this has been a recent trend.

Broke Guys Vs. Cheap Guys

Post By: Lady A

When it comes to money and dating I get very uncomfy with the notion of a guy “showering’ me with $ (wow that just sounded like I am stripping and he is going to make it rain ;) 

I don’t need an over the top date at a fancy spot.
If you ask me out, yeah I sorta expect you to pay. BUT follow up date I may suggest something and therefore my treat. If your old school and also somehow you actually are doing ok in this economy and INSIST on paying-well you will get baked goods from me.

 I also don’t want to spend hundreds (nor want you to spend hundreds) on getting to know each other.Its like *boom date 5 and we realize “eh I am just not that into you” and you see you have spent all this money.

So if your taking notes: Lady A hates wasting time & money

If I know you’re flat broke, I don’t push going out or anything of the sort. I am the type of girl who will cook meals for you so you can have a home cooked meal not consisting of ramen. I dont want money to be an issue on getting to know each other.

Now for another BUT

If you get back on your feet and you go out with friends and spend money, I will safely assume I have become food&booty for you, and thus you get cut off from both. So like Ms.Erykah Badu sings..."You better call Tyrone" 

being cheap differs from being broke. and being cheap and selfish....WORSE!

Again I am not saying you have to spend a ton of dough on me, but think about it this way; that vodka/vino/coffee you drank-those meals you ate at my place- someone paid for all that. Not including the time and effort in prepping those meals. That someone is me. I am mad broke as well, but damn skippy if I like you I will split toast with you and make sure you have more butter on your side.

I have dated that cheapskates who thinks “ that Lady A, she is a nice girl-she will always be around” as they throw back drinks being out with friends.

Well guess what buddies, Lady A has this new confidence that is fierce, and the days of me waiting at home for you to take me out-no mas. Go ahead-go out and spend money frivolous But don’t expect to get any more meals/booty from me. I do too much for others to begin with; I am not going to waste my energy on you!

*Steps off high horse

Best cheap dates:
Picnics in central park
Picnics at home (trust me this was fun)
Gallery hopping (and coordinate it right and there is free wine)
Game nights (with friends)
Coffee talk and travel scrabble
Catch at a park (also a fav-pre picnic)
Making dinner together/baking together
Being tourist and exploring neighborhoods with a camera (its cheesy-but do a lil
Research before heading out and it will impress your date)
Socrates Sculpture Park in Astoria
 Bring it old school. Color together and make all kid foods(Pb&j, macNcheese, grilled cheese)

there is like a ton more stuff I bet in warmer months. For now this is the list I can come up with while I wait for my nails to dry.

My personal:
I do love a good dance night & thank goodness cover for Goth is cheap (5w/out flyer 3 with), throw in pregamming at home and a flask in my purse (ghetto but needed)

As long as you give me one night out at Goth every 3 months I promise to rock your world later when we get home ;) nothing turns me on more than dancing on the dance floor slightly tipsy w/ my eyes closed. ☺ And bonus: you get to see me in corsets, and what not.

Oatmeal Bacon Cookies(w/chocolate) vs. Creme Brulee

Post By:Lady A

so i know everyone has been telling me i am freaking out over all this for no reason.

i wish everyone could have peaked into my email pre-deletes- the emails were long,charming,witty and LONG

i decided before i started hearing *you got mail: that i would respond to everyone that emailed me, seriously thinking that i would get 5 tops/and even less once i saw the picture they picked of me *ick

but i got a ton more than i expected. so sitting down to write, i didn't want to come off as generic and wanted to respond properly.

that sorta took a toll on me. i know i "blog" about my life-truth is i keep sooooo much hidden. even my closest dearest friends have to still sit me down and pry information on how i feel. so it was hard having to share myself over and over again with each email. i would rather keep undressing and dancing in pasties and boy shorts with stockings and garters than email about myself.

the last few days i have been corresponding the most with two suitors.  they both love food

one was a chef for a few years in Italy (yeah amazing right??) when asked what his specialty is he responded with :creme brulee made with lemon zest and fresh vanilla beans: 

*my sister-cio-pets response: "does he like depeche mode-if so marry him"

the second suitor is a hyper ball of energy and by peaking at his flickr is well traveled and loves to experiment and cook. when he first shared his food pictures with me (which i guess i was more interested in seeing then of him- i am such a fat girl)  I saw the pictures and feared that he may not be red meat friendly (yeah i think it may be a deal breaker in my book) but he sent me the picture below,which is Oatmeal/Chocolate/Smoked Bacon 

so on just that alone kids i pose you this question:

oatmeal bacon cookies vs. creme brulee

btw:both these guys are in their 20's. i have not dated someone so close to my age in forever!

Love, Lady A

The First "Date"...Coming Soon!

Post by:Sir F

It's 5am. I had my first "date" tonight. The two have no relationship to each other. It's late and I have to work this one day thing tomorrow, but I shall post about my experience ASAP!

dudes

Post by: Lady M

In conjunction with sir F's idea of a time machine to teleport him to 95' to scope of Miss Ryder I'd like to propose the same, but in this case I'd make it the 1950's and the object of affection would be Marlon Brando. I'd say Brando circa Guys and Dolls because I always love a nice dapper gentleman. Honestly, I don't even know what my type is anymore. I guess I'll give you all the ' types' that I've dated or have been attracted to.

1. The punk rock movie buff who looks like a younger version of al pachino or John Bender from the Breakfast Club

2. The bespectacled NPR, hiker, indie dude with full sleeved tattoos

3. The older punk rock chef who shares an affinity for the MISFITS

4. The film buff who has an obsession with Bjork and B horror films


I'm curious as to who my # 5 will be..time will only tell...

Lady A's Last Meal...

Post By: Lady A

I have cheated. when asked by my suitors how i would answer the question i changed it each time depending my mood. only certain things changed. so with that this is the one down and true answer:

Location: Namiquipa, Chihuahua, Mexico- Abuela Lupe's home, the courtyard (when it was all still there) i would love a crisp summer/fall day.

Time: (yes time) it would start at 1pm-9am following morning 

(btw everyone has been so morbid about reflecting and what not. somehow i just assumed it would be a huge party and i would just go home make love to my husband have him hold me and i would just never wake up-poor him he will need therapy and need to be a strong man!)

Who: Moo,Cio,PapaFrita & both sides of the family (plenty of alcohol will have to be around)

My friends, true friends, my plus one and any minis we would have created together.

Setting: long wooden tables and chairs in "el patio" candles everywhere in mason jars, fresh wild flower cut on every table, at least 4 bottles on each table at all times, Vino Tinto, Vino Verdhe y una Tequila-muy fina. (Cio-pet would choose the wines, and my Tio's the tequila)

I would want Music constantly, starting with a serenata brought to me by my husband as my 'mocos bring me cafe de la olla and a pan dulce and watch the marachis from the balcony of Tia Tere's home. 

Music at the feast of St.Lali :) would be a mash up of everything i love, but during the meal i would like tangos/flamenco and old school mexican marachi songs.  all live

ok now the feast, in no real order:

fresh tortillas-corn & flour

fresh crema

chicken hearts and gizzards in a tomato sauce

steak (med-rare for me)

tamales-all flavors made by Tia Malena

mole-all flavors

veggies of all forms how ever my tias would want to prep them

a lamb and pig roasted

arroz primavera

arroz mexicano

frijoles rancheros (made by moo)

roasted corn

roasted green onions

avocados

parilla de carne made by Abuelito Ernesto

salsas de todo

enchiladas

taquitos

flautas

 (ok this list is not even 1/2 way done-but all Mexican treats made by my family)

dessert-cio would have to make some apple crisp thingy, preserved peaches and apricots and sweet lil rolls. chocolate mint cake from moo, fresh ice cream from dad-vanilla and pistachio flavors. crepes with bananas and nutella, something decadent from NeighborBride.

ok and for the hangover everyone will have-menudo

i would sneak off at times with my husband to make love down by the river, in the woods, basically anywhere we wont get caught, but at 4 am when everyone is soo piss drunk- i would check on my mini's kiss them good night and know that their father and their Tia Cio will care for them always. My husband and i would retreat to a small house where the room will be filled with candles and the bed nice and big so we can make love one last time. and before i head off to sleep sip on crema de membrillo and feed each other fruits in between kisses. 

i have put way too much thought into this, and am way too sappy right now (not even on the rag!) 

i just love food so much!!!

Last Meal Response

Post by: Lady N

The answer to Lady A's question:

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"

My last meal would definitely be steak, medium rare (don't most death row inmates choose this also? I'm so cliche), mash potatoes with salt and pepper, baked potato, sunny side up eggs, and 2 boiled eggs. Does that sound weird? I really love potatoes and eggs. And fish sauce for my boiled eggs. I'm not sure, with this meal, if anyone would want to spend the day with me. Actually, I'm a little saddened by the fact that I can't think of someone I would want to spend my last day with. Whoever this person is would also be the person who prepares the meal because I think I would be too impatient. Maybe I would choose the guy dubbed Greatest Sex Ever...since I would obvi need to have a lot of sex before I go. And some kisses on my back. All of this would take place at a cliff-side bungalow overlooking the ocean on Koh Tao, Thailand. Mmmmm....

This would actually also work well as a first date. I would just replace the location with...my apartment.

First date: Who pays?

Post By:Lady N

That's so ironic that "F" just posted a blog about cheap dates because before going on my blind date the other night I was worried that I would be totally into my date but that at the end of the night he wouldn't insist on picking up the tab which is a total turn-off and potential deal breaker.

Before you get your panties in a bunch over this let me just post a disclaimer that 1) I am not a gold digger and 2) I am not the type of girl who thinks the guy should always pay. I have always been very independent and can take care of myself. I think that when you've been dating someone you can always say, "You got it last time, let me pick up this one," or, "Wanna just split it?" But, the first date is very different. It's just more about the gesture and gives a girl a bit of a sneak peak of the type of person you are.

Update: He did pick up the tab by the way.

He also never called.

"F," your situation is a bit different as you put on your profile that you're unemployed and have less monthly income than the fake designer purse vendor on the corner. Any girl who has written to you should be under the assumption that you're not taking them to Le Bernadin or paying. Perhaps they're even potential sugar mamas who just want to take care of you while lounge around in your briefs all day trying to design that time machine of yours. Some women just want to nurture and save poor souls. : ) I've had plenty on fun cheap dates, though for some reason I can't recall any of them.

You can always go middle school style and invite her over to your place to watch movies. Wait, you sold your DVDs.

BYOB and M?

Online Dating

Post By:Lady M

So as you all Lady N, Lady A, and Sir F were all involved in the nyc singles edition of Time Out NY. I wasn't a part of it but Lady A has suggested that I email some dudes. I'm not sure what to think about the whole online dating scene. I did meet someone online three years ago and it was the ONLY time I had ever done such a thing. At the time I was in college and I did it because I was bored. I'm anxiously awaiting to hear how my fellow blogger's dates will turn out.

Sometimes I randomly search through craigslist personals just for kicks but I've never answered one. As a search word I always use PUNK just to limit the search responses and they're usually the most entertaining of the bunch. I'll use this Valentine's

day ad as an example of something I would respond to. Although the "muffy-kins" part was full of cheese, I still thought it deserved a chance:

Being a single guy I'd like to take part in, and make light of, this uber romantic holiday! I''m slightly bored and beginning to get a little cabin fever. You feeling the same? I say we go for drinks tonight and be over the top (and almost comically) romantic everywhere! Make out in inappropriate places, call each other "muffy-kins" . It'll be so fun it's gross! Let's use every cliche in the book and make ourselves laugh.

I'm a cute indie-rock kinda guy. Tattooed, but not over the top. Funny, clever and fun. Let's mix our senses of humor and have fun tonight.. Maybe a Williamsburg or Greenpoint dive bar, listen to old punk, drink PBR's and make everyone jealous!

pic for pic, let's chat


I told Lady A the other day that my cut off age is 35 when it comes to dudes. Seeing that I'm going to be 25 in 2 months, I figured that 10 years was an okay enough age gap to date. Maybe I should just keep my options open not not strictly stick to a specific # On the other hand my parents have told me that I should date guys around my age so that I don't end up having to carry them around in a walker :X

Keep It Cheap?

Post By:Sir F

As it stated in the issue, I am unemployed and very broke. I made enough money last week from selling a bunch of my DVDs (it broke my heart to sell a lot of those DVDs) to get me by a little but I spent too much on Monday night at the mixer so now funds are almost gone and I only have about 2 days of work coming up next week (and the money I will not see for 2 weeks after that which will probably be $150 at most).

So my question is this, ladies...
When is a cheap date too cheap?

People always say there's fun stuff you can do for Free, but we all know that alcohol eventually comes into play and there's never just one drink.

I've had dates before where they would insist on paying for the date, but I could definitely feel that hesitation and the feeling of "I shouldn't have to be doing this". It makes me feel terrible and I HATE doing that. I become annoyingly apologetic and the whole time I keep thinking, "You're a creep! Wash dishes or work fast food if you're this bad off, ya jerk"! And then my date is left wondering why I'm muttering to myself and occasionally punching myself viciously in the stomach.

Have you ladies ever had a good cheap date? When does it start to become annoying when the guy just doesn't have the cash to throw around? Does this beard make me look stupid? Who wants ice cream?!

Keep it real, boo

Response

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"


Well, I'll start my answer by telling you all what Bourdain's last meal would be; The roasted bone marrow at St. John restaurant in London.

I'm more of a breakfast person really so I would say that my last meal would be a 'Baliada' which is a concoction made up of a flour tortilla, refried red beans, and mantequilla crema (similar to sour cream). Sometimes scrambled eggs are added as well. It's a simple yet amazingly delicious meal. Others would call it hangover food. Similar to that 3am slice of pizza you have after a night of debauchery. I would share it with my family and friends of course and I would most likely eat it on the sofa watching Rock of Love Bus.


If I were to ask my potential suitors one question it would be :

Marty Mcfly lent you the keys to the DeLorean. Where in time are you taking me on our first date?

truth or dare:truth

Post By: Lady A

i just had an "omg i think i drunk twittered" moment while on the phone with the VA-X.

He said something that triggered a tipsy action.

On Monday night(Tuesday morning)while I wall flowered my way through the evening somehow HolyWaters caught up to me (i am such a lightweight/cheap date its not even funny) and i must have twittered while with Sir F, Lady N and Lady B at drinks-N-wings,  i know i had moments where i was there, but not there-daydreaming.

so my "oh-shit" moment came and i logged onto twitter to see if i had written anything there (my twitter is closed to only peeps on my list-its not public)

and there it was.....dooom!!!!

 

"VivaLali:Hated tonite! Can someone just let it be ok to date the guy I like! Hit him and send him the memo that I am fabulous!!!0thanks! Ugh

1:53 AM yesterday from TwitterBerry"

yeah. thing is, he can see that message there since he is a fellow twitter. f*ck. 

so now i have to grow balls and be straight with myself on what i want and what i am willing to give and not give. 

i am doing shit 1/2 assed and thats not my 'stee. (yes quite ghetto at present)

I need to do this BEFORE i go on any dates because i do not like to waste my time nor others.

but mainly my time.

i am 28, its ok to cut ties since, lets be honest here:i have enough friends and do i really need to keep one in someone i sorta was seeing? umm no-i would rather focus on the friends i have now. 

i wish i had la right now to calm me down :( 

*break time

Post By:Lady A

I need to take a break from replying to the emails i have received from NYC's singles.

Now the emails i have received,for the most part, have not been short, they have been long. very long, like biography long. encyclopedia long (do we get the point? yes. ok moving on)

So the great thing is most of my suitors have in common: they cook, like for reals! its been a minute since i have had someone cook for me. gees, if a guy right now would make me toast i would be happy (thats sad)

They are also super witty and funny. i have been laughing out loud A LOT (well in their emails at least)

and by posting scrabble bit, i may have many many new partners (in scrabble kiddos; not in my bed)

there is one question i have been asking all of them and you should answer it as well:

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"

i decided that within the next 24hours i will say yes to one of my prospects. mainly cuz both Lady N and Sir F both have had/will have their first dates already. 

i took procrastination to the next level and gave myself a mani and pedi.

ok back to corresponding,

p.s. I need help on saying "i am just not that into you" in a very nice way. help.

The Fine Art of Blah Blah Blah (blog)

Post By:Sir F

Well what do we have here? A blog for those who have been put on public display and have had the floodgates of strange and unusual e-mails thrust upon us! Ok, maybe not thrust since we willingly (just barely for some) took part in the Time Out New York feature. Wait... I just typed thrust and avoided an easy sexual innuendo. Wait...scratch that. There I go again. Why, hello ladies!

Lame.

OK, moving on...

I'm happy to be contributing to this blog. I met these lovely ladies at the TONY mixer and clicked instantly with them (at least I thought so). These women are awesome and deserve some bitchin' dudes to date them (yes, I talk like this).

So far I've received about 20 e-mails, which blows my mind considering I didn't hide my love for Ghostbusters, Gremlins and mid-90's Winona Ryder. I would say about 80% of the e-mails were pretty wacky. It doesn't surprise me since I put my "geekiness" out there on the table. There might be a fine line between geeky and "geeky", but that line is there. I don't think there's a train that goes to Middle-earth, ya dig? High Five! I'm an ass.

I'm new to this whole online dating thing, but shouldn't it be common knowledge to send a picture with an e-mail? And on top of that, wouldn't you want to find the most flattering or semi-flattering picture of yourself? A friend of mine told me that sending a picture with an e-mail is much like if you were at a bar and someone approached you. As much as you'd like to think you're not shallow, you do size up and know if this person is appealing to you or not and if you want to spend time getting to know that person. It's awkward for all involved if you end up sending a picture later only to not have that person respond back after initial correspondence. It just saves time and hassle. That's really all I have to say on that.

I have my first "date" tomorrow night. More of a meet up. Just a friendly chat. I will post about it on Friday.

Glad to be here. Hope I didn't come off as a giant jerk. I'm only slightly awful (ask my kids I abandoned).

Happy Dating, Friends! Please don't die!

BoyWonder Single!

Post By: Lady A

The Time Out New York Singles Party was this past Monday. 

My mom vetoed my dress, and actually went out and bought me a new one while i was in paperlandia

 (one which not only showed a 'healthy about of decollete but also my back tattoo :)

 paired it with beige fishnets and red round toe pumps i put on my red rouge and headed out.

when i got to the location and saw i had to wait in line,my nerves went b-a-n-a-n-a-s: not a good sign.

walking down into the location was like walking into my worst nightmare. a meat market. did i mention my 'girls were on display? ok it may have not been that bad, but i am getting old and prefer dive bars or coffee shops, or home.

i waited for Lady N to make it in, and made my way over to coat check.  it was a sea of people.instantly i started to hate myself for doing this. i met some kick ass singles who decided to wall flower it with me.

i spent most of my time nursing 'holy waters'- vodka-soda-limes. Chatted with two boys at the end of the bar, chatted with Judah Friedlander, mad cool persona-he was wall flowering it over by the bathrooms. and then i chatted with Sir F. he is another single, and i recognized him as one that Lady M noted seemed cool. 

well in real life Sir F is cool. he had ladies swarming around him. when i got to steal a moment with him, i confessed that i would rather be at home in bed reading my book. he agreed. 

i forced him to stay with me while i drank my last drink(there) and we chatted more, muisca-texas-vida. mad cool-cat.

we left and joined Lady N and Lady B(another single) for more drinks and wings.

trained it home, and like the beautiful disaster that i am i managed to mess my room up in record timing. 

it was not the best experience mainly because it was soo packed and so meat market like.

but meeting Sir F was fabulous.

So with that said: Sir F will be joining us here, and giving us a males perspective. i also hope to pick his brain on what i should and should not be saying to males. i think i tend to say inappropriate things, he may be able to help me with this.

back to painting my toenails. 

"whose that girl?? ohhh and who is that boy??????"

Post By:Lady A, Lady N, Lady M & Sir F

Who are we you ask?

Lady A:

My style in 10 words or less:
Rockabilly-Housewife meets sophisticated goth. Sucker for garters/stockings and heels!

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Making adventures out of every day events.

About me:
I am a lil ball of happy energy. An insomniac that loves sleep. Way too sarcastic for my own good. I strive to be a mix of Martha Stewart/Frida Kahlo/Bettie Page. I check out books from the library & watch PBS. I like holding hands and laughing so hard I snort. I want someone who doesn't play games, unless the game is scrabble. Not into showy flashy guys, BUT I do enjoy good manners and non-picky eaters

Lady N:

My style in 10 words or less:

Contradicting. Edgy and girly

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:

Glass is half empty. Bartender, can I have another?

About me:
I’m pretty goofy, read a lot of books, swim every day, and have a weak spot for online shopping and dirty martinis. I have a tendency to say inappropriate things at the dinner table. I’m really great at doing imitations of people. I never know the words to any songs. Looking for someone who has a sarcastic sense of humor and isn’t afraid to bust my balls and call me out on my bullshit.

Lady M:
My style in 10 words or less:
A punk rock femme inteligista who enjoys whisky, vinyl, and leather jackets.

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Live fast, and leave your inhibitions at the door.

About me:
I’m not your run of the average NYC girl clone. I like spending my nights rummaging through record collections and watching old movies. I’m that chick you call up when you want to take a last minute road trip to Graceland at 3am. I like books and I’m not talking about Oprah’s book club picks either. B- horror movies and funny guys melt my heart and if they dance even better.

AND

Sir F:

My style in 10 words or less:
laid-back but not borderline homeless chic

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Everything happens for a reason. Life’s what you make it.

About me:
I’m pretty laid-back and easygoing. I study and perform improv and sketch comedy at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre and around town. A great sense of humor is important. Ghost Busters and Gremlins are the two greatest films ever made. Believe it. What am I ideally looking for? Winona Ryder. Circa ’94–’95. Let’s see if this works. They make time machines, right?

*heart, 

Your ladies AND gentleman

Lady A, Lady N, Lady M and Sir F 

Time Out Singles Party: what to wear???

Post By:Lady A

I spent a lovely evening with QueensPunkTourGuideBoy, Saw the world, a few rockets, ate empandas and pizza, and rambled about everything and anything including my latest research on the 30'something-males.

at the end of the evening when he dropped me off he asked me what i would be wearing to the Time Out New York's Singles issue party.

Can i tell you that my body's reaction to that was..."umm yeah, now you can sleep, no anxiety tonight please!"


i have insomnia, and last night for the first time in many many weeks by booty was in bed sooo early. why? because i guess i physically could not bear the thought of picking out an outfit.



This morning while trying to cook something to eat for lunch, make coffee/breakfast/curling the ends of my hair/packing my bag i had an "a-ha" and reached in my closet and pulled out a dress i have worn 4 times prior. and since i have lost weight i had to fix it two times. This morning i was sewing myself into it.

peak here to take a look at it.

I am so plain, plain black stockings and black heels, black pearl earrings and ring.

I will do my make up and fix my hair before i leave work to head down to the location.

I never in a million years thought i would a)be doing this and B)be so anxious and nervous.

I have had a few more responses and have been doing everything and anything to NOT reply. procrastination has become my middle name. but i am replying, just at a slow-snail-speed.

Hope Lady N had a better time picking out her outfit.


and just a thought: wouldn't it be cool if Lady N, Lady M and myself went on a triple date with some of our prospects? and if we filmed it would you watch it???

*le sigh back to paperlandia.

Lady A says NO!

Post By:Lady A

So i just got this:

Hey there I am L, 26 latino from queens big sports fan and would really like to take you on a date to see if we click. I will be forward and say that I am not looking for a relationship per say but definetely in the mindset for sex.

Sincerely,

L

yeah are you for real?????? ummmm NO!

moving on!


EDIT:HELP ME RESPOND TO THIS D'BAG! please leave suggestions for a response! thanks!

"must like:" burgers

Post By:Lady A

ok so its late, and i am still awake, i thought my lone vodka drink would have me passed out, but insomnia has kicked it.

i love burgers. and as of late its been a recent craving. i had one not to long ago at Lady N's place of employment and it was amazing, mainly because it was med-rare...meaning nice and bloody (i am such a carnivore-bacon on bacon anyone)

anyways, i also love it when items are personified, like in the case of Whopper Jr. & familia. 

these commercials never get old for me and i laugh out loud every time (that's lol for all you youngin's)

i have a very sarcastic, cheesy sense of humor and i need someone who is not scared to laugh with and at me. 

ohhh and i also like these commercials as well (for a girl who does not have cable nor spends a lot of time in front of the tele i sure do have a lot of favs!)

so here is a mini list:

~must like burgers, and willing to share fries

~must enjoy cheesy commercials

~must like naps (i get sleepy after all those burger&fries and laughing from cheesy commercials)

*besos

Lady A

Lady N's First Responders

Post By:Lady N

I got my first response to the TONY singles story at 11:30 a.m. today. The issue just hit stands today! I had to wonder about this guy. I mean, it's almost like calling the same night that you got someone's number. Sniff sniff. I smell a little desperation. My instinct was right. This guy wrote like an entire essay about himself. Paragraphs! I scrolled to the bottom waiting to see something that would explain why he chose to write to me out of 50 other girls. Something along the lines of, "I saw that you like to swim, me too!" Or "I've been looking for a girl who has balls I can bust!" Any type of connection! Instead, he wrote all about himself AND included a picture of himself. I'm not one to rule out suitors for looks, but he was wearing a ribbed turtleneck sweater! Read: I like my condoms ribbed. Not sweaters.

Later I got a text from a fellow TONY single. She said she got her first reply. I said, let me guess, was his name P? Sure enough, same guy.

My next response seemed more normal. At least it was shorter and he actually wrote my name instead of "To Whom it May Concern." But that's about all I can give him credit for. His email read:

N,

I saw your ad on TONY and wanted to get to know you. However, I am a bit puzzled why a woman who has so much to offer needs to advertise. I am just curious.

K

Dear K,
First of all, it's not an ad. I did not pay money to put my profile in the magazine. So I wouldn't call it an ad nor would I say I'm advertising. I'm more like fish that's starting to go bad so they sell me as Saturday night's special. I'm here if you want it. I won't last long.

Now my question to you. If you have anything at all to offer, I wonder why do you need to respond to an ad? Just curious.

confession time:

Post By: Lady A

Dear Father, its been a billion years since my last confession; i had a personal ad up on Bust Personals for a lil over a year (but i am forgetful and forgot i had one!) here is my profile:

The word or phrase that best describes my personality
energetic, easy going, sarcastic

The best or worst lie I've ever told
i am a horrible liar, i tend to tell on myself.

Fill in the blank: _____ is sexy; _____ is sexier.
nutella is sexy;eating  nutella while in bed is sexier ok, i can not figure out this one. but i am craving nutella right now....

My most humbling moment
(stolen from another profile) "i'm here aren't i......."

The last thing that made me laugh out loud
I laugh a lot, but its when you get a "snort" out of me, thats when things are getting good!

IDEALS ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
If I could be anywhere right now
sipping cafe con leche & smoking at a cafe in Barcelona.
or sipping on wine in nyc with friends

If I was given a million dollars
buy a home and throw a party.....

PHILOSOPHIES ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
Five items I can't live without
chap-stick, muji pens, mini note-pad, musica, hair-tie

25 years from now, I see myself
being old. and being happy.

The role religion plays in my life
its more family tradition, but in no way is it my "guiding light"

My personal motto or creed
"...every thing can be solved with comida y vino..."
;)

STYLE ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
My personal style
quirky, depends on my mood. i hate spending hours getting ready...quite impatient!

The celebrity I resemble the most
Lucy Van Pelt of the Peanuts

Body art
a few tattoos.

Favorite item of clothing
i love a good dress, nice pair of heels, and if i feel like getting dolled up my garters as well ;)

SPACE ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
In my bedroom one will find...
a bed, books, ....(and you wont find a tv)

In my refrigerator one will find...
produce, wine, vodka&sake, leftovers!

Pets
sadly none :(

WORK & LIVING ENVIRONMENT ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
The pace of my life is best described as:
Assistant aka a work-wife

The type of family I come from
LOUD, extreme foodies and "drink" testers.

The amount of fame and fortune I've achieved in my life is...
not much fame, or fortune. plenty of friends and fun

INTERESTS ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
My favorite way to spend a weekend
a party, dinner w/friends, sleeping in, brunch, errands (yes i enjoy errands, crazy i know)

If I could take a class on any subject, it would be...
silk screen methods,

The sports I play, and the sports I watch
futbol!

My most unusual or impressive skill
do not have any....that i know of or recognize.

ENTERTAINMENT ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
The last great book I read
"The Inheritance" by Sahar Khalifeh

In my stereo right now, you'll find...
Depeche Mode, Belanova

5 albums I can't live without
"Violator" Depeche Mode "Exitos" Moenia "Extra Virgin" Olive "First Album" Miss Kitten & The Hacker "Finisterre" Saint Etienne

The best movie I saw this year
Trade

Movies which spend the most time in my DVD player
Intacto, todo sobre mi madre

Shows I Tivo (or would)?
actually, i dont have cable. yes i know, SIN, but it would be A&E The first 48 Hours

Favorite on-screen sex scene
maybe in Sex y Lucia?

DATING ADD/EDIT THESE TOPICS ON YOUR OWN PROFILE
Activities I'd enjoy on a date
air hockey, bowling, picnics, people watching

A date should be planned
well you should have an idea, but the best dates are the ones that start at a meeting point and develop as the day/night goes on

On a first date, I expect
honesty, but i expect that all the time ;)

I had one date from this. He was nice, not my type, and a lil too aggressive about sex. he contacted me stating that he liked my response to the "this is sexier" and me saying Nutella. so when we went on a date, i gifted him a jar of nutella. 

*le sigh, all this will be good writing material ;)

<3

the lazy dater

And the race is off.......

Post By: Lady A

.......Lady N & Lady A are in Time Out New York's Singles Issue!

we will be updating on the messages we receive, the responses we give and of course the dates we go on!

wish us luck! and if anything we hope to have a TON of writing material!!

Kisses!

Lady A 

&

Lady N

BE ON YOUR GUARD IN YOUR LATE 20s

Post By:Lady A

I am assuming that in response to this:

FaceBook status: Lady A wants to move to Portland and Drag Lady C with her. 

HF:portland????

PC:portland?? why Portland?

Lady A:they have a large art community, foodie/organic/local farmer community, its by water and mountains, and its a city.

me and the sis are trying to figure out where we would want to raise mini's as well (well she most likely will pop some out)

its a local/small town mentality in a large city.

:) that and we are Gypsies and cant settle down in one spot.

...That Lady M sent me this

please read the link.I will wait and then we can continue with my lil rant. 

Ok your done?lets continue shall we, fabulous.

Now, I am not saying I am 100% on the kid thing, it seems the older I get the more realistic I am on bringing in children into this world. but I would like to have the choice, and not be dried up.

over on Domestic & Single I have been complaining about the 30'something year olds I have been encountering in the last two years who really act what I expect 22 year olds act like. 

its not a good sign when you date guys in their late 30's and they say

 "yeah i am just hanging out, not looking for anything serious"

I agree you shouldn't "look" for anything, BUT you should be open to the idea of it.

I do not want to hear from another guy after a few months of courtship

 "I want to see what else is out there but I would still like to see you"

umm no, you can NOT have your cake and eat it too!

the article is soo true, NYC is such a hard place to date. well thats a lie, if I wanted to date, I am pretty sure I could have a different date for every meal 7 days a week. it just means I would be dating guys who:

~i am not attracted to

~i will break their hearts before the check arrives

~i can walk all over

~do not challenge me

~bore me

yeah I know, high and mighty on myself. but it is true.

I have a dirty lil secret whom I have started to fall for and I have to pull away from. he has been a secret because I did not want my friends to yell at me. and after reading the article, I realized I am wasting time.

also is it wrong if I think a man in his 30's should be living on his own? and not at home with his 'rents? I heard this on a sorta-kinda-first-encounter/date and let me tell you I wanted to call it a night right then and there; any attraction I had for him went out the window.

the guy who told me this said it was a culture thing. thing is I do not see that as an acceptable justification seeing that I am latina and independent (for the most part).

 I posed the question to some female friends and their first reactions were:

 "Is he caring for his parents?- NO? than yeah thats no good!"

I wonder how the dating scene is in Portland, thing is, I suck at dating. I am better at relationships. 

one confused and frustrated Lady A!