Lady A & Lady N update

post by Lady A

Thanks Sir F, for checking in on us....


lets see, when you last left off with Lady A (moi)
I had given up on dating.

I still have given up. On Tony and just in general. Too many players and I hate the game(s)

:) nahhh. just focusing on my 'ish. gone out here and there. no real real dates. still would not mind have a summer steady thing.

as of late i have been smitten :) but nothing crazy,and nothing i can't share without speaking to Lady N first.

Lady N update: she is in her homeland. living it up. and she will be back really soon!!!

Update!

So, what's going on, guys? I know I gave up pretty hard! Ha!

Feliz Cumpleanos Lady M!!!

Have a great day lady!!!!!!!

Yikes

Holy shit, I've been SO out of touch with the real world lately. Shit is bonkers and I about had a full on break down last week.
Needless to say, this has taken it's toll with the whole dating thing. It has crumbled right before my very eyes.

Maybe I should just appreciate the fact that I'm so busy lately. I do appreciate it. But then it just puts me back in the same place as before with relationships. I know I can find a balance one day.

Miss you guys!

slackers....

Post By:Lady A

...Sir F, Lady N, and myself-Lady A

we have been slacking.

so here i ask a questions:its our homework for the week......

give me your best "WALK OF SHAME" story.

Lady M-thanks for keeping us afloat. i guess the rest of us have been sucking at dating.

i gave up.

Wed Update

So after 20 phone calls, text messages, and voice mails and a 6am phone call I have decided NOT to hang out with punk karaoke dude again. He's a nice guy but 20 phone calls automatically elevated him to stalker status.

In other news, I was approached by a very attractive african american gentleman caller with LL Cool J lips on my way to work. He came out of his ford mustang, and said that he's been seeing me on my route to work since last week. I thought to myself, great another stalker? He told me he goes to Pace law school and that he was heading out to California today to compete on a mock trial competition. I told him that I studied law at Oxford one summer and almost took my lsats. So we share that common interest. He also said that he lives in the city center in white plains, which is a really expensive place to live in. I gave him my number and we're going to hang out once he comes back to New York next week. I hope he doesn't mind that I have tattoos since he doesn't seem like the type that would be into them. I was dressed conservatively today with a black skirt,heels, black shirt, and leather jacket. We'll see.

MONDAY NIGHT!!!!!

Haha, another EPIC night last night. Can't stress that enough. I decided to go to Rock and Roll Karaoke last night at Arlene's grocery where I met a cs friend. We ended up hanging out for a bit then we signed up for the karaoke list. He did U2 sunday bloody sunday and I put down Danzig's MOTHER! The hot announcer said that clearly everyone who wrote on the list was dyslexic..ahaha. SO my friend performed his song and ROCKED OUT! Haha, then it was my turn!!!. Holy hell I was nervous!!! Before I got on stage the hot announcer pointed to me and said " I can't wait to hear what you're doing baby" I shouted back I'm doing  motherfucking DANZIG! I got on stage after my friend and totally KICKED ASS! Seriously it was such a rush performing in front of all those people. I loved every minute of it. As soon as I got off stage I started rocking out and a mohawked punk rocker came up to me and started dancing with me. I thought he was cute, with his green mohawk and tattoos. We kept on rocking out and started making out in the crowd...classy! We left around 1ish and headed over to MARS BAR. It's an awesome punk dive bar with a KILLER jukebox. We got there and he introduced me to all of his friends. He's an older punk rocker although he does not look his age. He said he was 39! I swear I have a thing for older men haha. ANYWAY, he told me he does hair for a living and then he took out his scissors and started cutting my hair!! I told him I didn't want him to cut it short but he just made my ends even and fixed my bangs up a bit. He kept showing me off and said it was the best work that he's done in a while. He works at a UES salon so he works with a lot of prudes, no punk rock chicks. Then this photographer came up to us and wanted to take pictures of us. We started kissing and she took some pictures. They really came out great. Her name is Gabi Porter and she told me she has a flickr page.  After hanging at mars bar for a bit I told him I would give him a ride home since he lives by me in the Bronx. The dude totally fell asleep on me and I was stuck driving around lost the Bronx and 3am. So I took him to my house..haha and we slept on my couch in the basement :) I gave him a ride to his apt this morning and we were talking about music, and life in general. Turns out he was at the Casualties show on Sunday!!!!! I told him I went too and he said that he's friends with The Krays and The Casualties since he's been around the scene for a while. I told him that I'm going to a Punk festival in Boston during my birthday weekend and he said he would go with me. " I'm lookin for a girl to spoil" He just called me up to make sure I got home safe. We're hanging out this weekend for sure!

always a bridesmaid...

Ok, a little late, but finally took the quiz. Scary that it's pretty on point. I am a perfect catch!




The Maid of Honor
Deliberate Gentle Love Master (DGLM)

Appreciated for your kindness and envied for all your experience, you are The Maid of Honor.

Charismatic, affectionate, and terrific in relationships, you are what many guys would call a “perfect catch”—and you probably have many admirers, each wishing to capture your long-term love. You’re careful, extra careful, because the last thing you want is to hurt anyone. Especially some poor boy whose only crime was liking you.

We’ve deduced you’re fully capable of a dirty fling, but you do feel that post-coital attachment after hooking up. So, conscientious person that you are, you do your best to reserve physical affection for those you respect...so you can respect yourself.

Your biggest negative is the byproduct of your careful nature: indecision. You’re just as slow rejecting someone as you are accepting them.

recession date

Post By:Lady A

so this guy asked me out, and we have a date friday. i will not nickname him. i have been thinking about one for him, but decided against it.

we both are broker than broke, so i suggested that after work he come over for dinner and board games/movie/blog session.

he is a blogger,i could so see us with our laptops out at dinner blogging while on the date.so 2009.

i am trying to figure what a good date movie would be. i mean i know him, sorta, so i am not nervous, we laid our cards on the table, so we know neither of us is like wanting "till-death-do-us-part-babies" this very moment. i really have had such a bad week i want to just relax and laugh and not stress.

so question: what does one wear when the date is home turf?

anyone ever date sorta-friends? if so how did it go?

no more card giving.

Post By:Lady A

Lady A,

Hi. Just wanted to email you and thank you for the great time. It was nice emailing you and getting to know you. You seem like a great person, with a great personality, and someone I would have loved to have gotten to know better.

Sadly, I am not so sure you're that interested in me. I understand you're busy and I think its great you're finding work, but I don't even get a text or email anymore. I still have your card on my desk (along with the 10 Lady N gave me) but I probably should take them down. Let me know. If you'd like to try to get to know me, I am still willing. If not, good luck. I'm sure a great girl like yourself can find someone.

Take care

Creme Brulee

I feel like shite. how does one respond: "hi, i am not that into you, yes the emails were great but i felt no spark, i kept thinking of secret almost the whole time i was with you. your great, but not for me. how on earth did you fall for me so "quickly"? what happened to the other gals you messaged? and big huge turnoff for all this.

i will never do internet dating again. ever.period. .

i am a game console?

Post by:Lady A

My OkCupid Dating Persona Is...

The Playstation

Random Gentle Sex Master (RGSM)

Easy to turn on. Hard to beat. You are The Playstation.

You’re a nice girl, and you have lots of sex. It’s therefore highly likely that you’re attractive, and you’re certainly outgoing & friendly. Plus, this healthy physical attitude of yours indicates deeper emotional well-being and stability. Unheard of. When guys dare to dream, they dream of you.

You don’t get attached too easily, and, to wit, you’re not necessarily looking for something long-term right now. That’s a bigger asset than you know. Though, physically speaking, you’re open to anything, you’re keeping your emotional side well-protected. This means there won’t be a lot of wreckage to clean up whenever you decide to settle down.

In the meantime, the men you share yourself with actually respect you. Like them, you enjoy sex for its own sake and don’t need any other validation for pleasure than pleasure itself. Hopefully, you have the good sense to blow off anyone who thinks less of you for that. Usually, this is the part of the description where we offer some life-correcting advice, but honestly, we can’t think of anything about you we’d change. Keep on fucking, partner.

ok i am laughing my ass off!! Lady N its your turn.

Sir F Test Results

I took that test thing Lady M mentions below. I'm a little surprised by my result. Makes me sound like some mindless jock out for pussy.
I'm no jock!

My OkCupid Dating Persona Is...

The Hornivore

Random Brutal Sex Master (RBSM)

View my profile:

Find out your dating persona, take The Dating Persona Test!

Lady M : The Dirty Little Secret

That's right folks, I just wasted 5 minutes of my life by  taking a lame OkCupid Dating Persona test.  Funny thing is, is that it's pretty true to fact. So fellow bloggers, I suggest you do the same.

The Dirty Little Secret

Deliberate Gentle Sex Master (DGSM)







Innocent but fundamentally sexual, like the word “finger”. You are the Dirty Little Secret.

Few women have the confidence for sex mastery, and among nice girls, like you, it’s almost unheard of. So congratulations. You’ve had plenty of adventures, but you’ve remained a kind, thoughtful person. Your friends appreciate your exploits. They even live vicariously through you.

You seek pleasure, but you’re not irresponsible. You are organized and cautious, and you choose your lovers wisely. One, you don’t like dirtbags. And two, you like to maintain control. Or at least lose it selectively. You might notice that older men single you out. They have an eye for your sensual nature. Take it as a compliment.

You enjoy making people happy, and it’s inevitable that many guys will fall harder for you than you for them. You’re not completely comfortable in a serious, long-term relationship right now. Our guess is that the key to extended happiness will be finding a responsible, but kinky, mate.

I hear ya, F.

I read F's post about the emotions he's feeling When the Good Ex Gets Engaged. I know exactly how he's feeling. My "Good Ex", the one who broke up with me senior year of college to find himself, said he never stopped loving me and I assumed we'd find each years later, our older, more mature and stable selves back in love, called me two years ago to tell me he had gotten married over the weekend. The news blindsided me while I was browsing through the aisles of Barnes and Noble. I calmly said "congratulations" with what I hoped sounded like a hint of excitement, hung up the phone, stared blankly at a book for a minute, and then the tears just came pouring out. I just stood there, in the store, by myself, surrounded by strangers, crying and crying. I guess a part of me was comforted by the fact that I could hold on to him. That we could grow up, date, experience new things, and we'd have great stories once we got back together. But with his news, for the second time, it was over, and this time, for good. He was someone I thought I would eventually marry, so it really hurt that he had met someone that he loved even more than me.

I wished him all the best, he really does deserve it, but 5 years after our breakup I still find myself thinking about him, comparing every relationship to the one we had. I haven't loved anyone again the way I loved him, and I haven't felt loved the way he loved me. This confuses me greatly and I wonder if I'll ever find it again.

EPIC NIGHT!!!!

Wow guys I don't even know where to begin. Okay well, first off I'm part of  the COUCHSURFING COMMUNITY.  What it is, is that people from all over the world sleep on random people's couches and host weekly events.  This is totally legit and you need to have positive references to participate.  I check the message boards and this couchsurfer named Jenny posts a message asking if anyone wanted to join her to check out The Black Lips Show last night at the Bowery Ballroom . I respond saying yes but at the last minute my credit card wasn't budging so I  cancelled and told her that I was going to meet some other couchsurfers at Arlene's Grocery for Rock and Roll Karaoke night.  So I'm about to go to Arlene's when she texts me saying that this TWITTER friend of hers has a free ticket to The BLack Lips show last night.  She gave me his # and I go meet up with him at 57th and 7th ave. He ends up being the lamest fucking conversation I've had since BIRTH. The guy is some douchebag wallstreet prick who's not into music at ALL and only scored the tickets from his brother.  I end up trying to make a conversation with him in the car  but ugh he was so dry. Anyway, we get to the Bowery Ballroom and I meet up with Jenny and she introduced me to a fellow courchsurfer French astrophysicist NYU PHD candidate. I ended up moshing with him once The Black Lips came on. Omg seriously so much fun guys. I haven't moshed like that in a while. They KILLED last night..so awesome. By the way they're going to be in Brooklyn tonight if anyone want's to go, I'm SO DOWN to see them again. AMAZING SHOW!!! So we danced together and he was totally feeling me. Once the show finished I mentioned that another couchsurfer invited me to Rock and Roll Karaoke night over at Arlene's grocery. So we drive over go inside and meet up with the rest of the couchsurfers. HOLY HELL SO MUCH FUN!!!!!!!! We all totally ROCKED OUT at Karaoke. They played everything from Bon Jovi to PRINCE. I swear this hot ass John Bender looking punk sang the hell out of PURPLE RAIN by PRINCE. He was so good and all I could think about was taking him in the corner and making out with him. ANYWAY, at the end of the night all us ladies got on stage and moshed out the the Beastie Boys as we sang into the microphone. Seriously so much fun...you guys HAVE to hang with me!!!! I dropped off Jenny at the train station and then Mr. NYU got in the front seat. Once I dropped him off he kissed me and asked me if I was doing anything the later today. I told him I had a job interview but that we could hang this upcoming weekend. I think he liked the fact that I'm a little bit of a wild child with some smarts. So I just checked my phone and he said good luck on your job interview tomorrow, see you soon- Alex *swoons* So much fun tonight!!!!!! I'm going back to Arlene's for rock on roll Karaoke next Monday and you guys better be there!!!!!!! AWESOME NIGHT!!!!!!! So I'm inviting him to my friends birthday party and then I'm asking him and Jenny to check out The Casualties show at Europa in Brooklyn on the 15th. You guys are more than welcome to come. Sure to be a kick ass show!!! OI OI OI!!!

When The Good Ex Gets Hitched

Have you ever had an ex or someone you really cared about at one point in your life announce they're engaged?
My serious college girlfriend recently got engaged to her boyfriend. The guy is cool and I'm still very good friends with her and am very glad to see her happy but there's still a weird sensation that came over me.
See, in some unrealistic scenario inside my head, somehow we'd get back together and things would all work out. Any previous problems that might have existed in our past relationship wouldn't exist anymore. We're older, wiser, we would know better. But now that possibility has evaporated into thin air.
Based on my recent relationships (including my own engagement), I wondered if I was even capable of letting that happen even if she had come back.

It makes me wonder... where the hell is my mind in the past few or more years? I've thrown away some potentially great relationships. It was pretty much my fault for letting that college relationship for falling apart. I've had my fair share of heartbreak and girls cheat on me or lie, but I've always been pretty much fine with it because I figured it would go south anyway.

So it makes me wonder. What will it take to make me feel like I did once? Am I so far gone from being that again, or does it just take that one person to turn it back around?

I think this is just the engagement stirring up all these feelings.

Otherwise I'm all fuckin' sunshine and puppy farts, folks.

can't it be easy?

PostBy:Lady A

simplicity is key. 

characters in the play: boy and girl

feelings:either you like or don't like

communication: honest/open

time: when its mutual and when both parties would like to spend it together.

technology damages simplicity.

others meddle too much.

expectations ruin the natural attraction/initial feelings

communication-so connected-yet so far apart.

time together-feels like a chore.

*that's why i love moments when you first meet and you can have that passion without thought. 

Lady A's First Dates

Post By :Lady A

1)i went on a date recently where my dates car wouldn't start, he tried jumping the car, no deal. we walked back into the bar we had drinks (we were about to go to a movie) i went into the bathroom and when i came out he handed me a shot and said "my parents are on their way, my dad is a mechanic"

i took the shot, and had some more drinks, had to make small talk with his mom. btw i had been on a "detox" that lasted like a week. and we never got to the movie.

2)i once had a guy ask me out to dinner (i met him via his mom-my co-worker)  i met him at a coffee shop and paid for our coffees. he took me to a thai food place, yum, and he inhaled his food-gross. this kid did not come up for air! so dinner was silent. he took my leftovers-ugh. when the bill came- he said "you owe...", 

later when he asked me what music i liked-and i responded synthpop-he went on a rant about how he hate electronic music. 

we went for beers, and i didn't want to go through the awkward money thing, so i just paid for them. when i was annoyed i looked at my phone and said peace out. 

he so went in for a kiss i gave him the cheek.

he asked for a second date:i said "umm i am busy"

3)i went on a date with a "FrenchFryCanadian" we met for Sushi in the UES.

i was so nervous but played it cool. (money+older guy=feeling inadequate)

mid way through the date asked me to take off my glasses. and then said " you have a lovely decolletage"

he kept talking about how uptight Americans are about sex, and how happy that i am not a typical American girl. i decided it was time for me to leave, since he was suggesting i go back to his place. outside, he pins me to the side of the building and kisses me. 

this is what is going through my head:

"wow, this is not a good kiss-i wonder if i can make the path on time, will Q's still have drink specials? i need to get back seam stockings for my costume, did i pick up my dry cleaning? i should have not had that last sake, i need more boxes-i wonder if that guy i made out with at the BBQ will be at the party-i hope so, damn he was cute-what was his name?-i should have called him when i went to the Dali exhibit, ohh must look up the Dali movies, i hate how MOMA gets so packed-wonder what good off hours are" <-- all that took 20 seconds

i left, we never spoke again. he sent me lovely emails stating how much he loved spending time with me. i still am creeped out.

4)on a first date with an ex, we went to a lounge and had some drinks-it was so loud in the back upstairs room we could barely hear each other. and for a good 20mins a couple made out hardcore on a couch in front of us. i was at a loss for words.

5)i have had 3 different guys take me to the same "date trail":

Dinner at Spice (thai food) on University (it just moved) and dessert at Veniero's. on two of those first dates  i sat at the same table-same waiter. 

for the most part i like getting to know guys in more relaxed-not-like-an-interview dates.

and i hardly ever have a great first date story.

Art Gallery Date

I still haven't made plans with hot rod CL guy as of yet but I did come across another CL ad that caught my attention. It was titled, " Any non-ghetto Hispanic girls? - 22" Haha, I know and he's 22 I told you guys I was a cougar. Here's the ad:

- doesn't wear hoop earings and extra shiny lip gloss.
- will not try to pass off a fake LV bag.
- can pronounce Export Soda, Happy Birthday, and Corn Flakes properly (as opposed to "esporsoda, japi beldei and conflay")
- has a natural hair color... no, burgundy is not natural.
- is currently attending, or went to, a four year college, majoring in something other than medical assistance, social work, criminal justice, etc. (and no, associates degrees do not count).
- knows what town her family is from and can point to it on a map.
- is likewise at least mildly familiar with world culture and politics and can speak intelligently on some of them.

I am:
- 5'8, 140lbs
- a light smoker (mostly cigarettes, mostly marlboro reds, very rarely menthols and never EVER newports... )
- occasionally 420 friendly
- a light drinker, mostly scotch straight up, mostly on the weekends.
- a senior in art school (advertising/film), waiting to hear back from grad school.
- an avid listener of jazz, mostly latin and bop...
- the owner of two easily concealed tattoos, and a few piercings (none of which are cubic zirconium lobe studs).
- like Señor Borges, in that I think heaven will be a kind of library.
- scruffy.... short shaggy beard, slim jeans, wrinkled button-down, v-neck white tshirt, leather boots.
- sometimes a smart alec, but mostly a teddybear once you get to know me.


He replied back with a picture of one of his paintings and a picture of himself as well. He's really cute!!! He looks like like Penn Badgley from Gossip Girl. SO, we set a date for Thursday to check out some at art at the armory show and then we're meeting up with some of his friends that has a gallery show at the Nations Art Club in Gramercy. These craigslist guys are awesome!

"I am so not SOHO House"

Post By:Lady A

sign from the toliet @ SoHo House

Time:7pm

Location: The SoHo House

Date: MovieProducerDude

I get to what i *think my be the location, and the only inkling i have of it being there is the snotty look i get from a girl sitting behind a desk that i spot while i peer in.

just as i was about to text him, i see a tall guy with glasses walking towards me.

thinking back on it, i think he gestured two tumbs up. hmmm

anyways, we go in, and while we ride the elevator up, he admits he had not been here in a few months, and he thought it would be a good people watching. that put me at ease-"ok he is not one of THEM"

he choose a spot where i could take in the full experince. a waitress promplty came over, he gestured for me to order "Holy Water please" (ok i said vodka-soda-lime) and he ordered a GingerAle.

he let me drink my drink ALONE! i mean we agreed to drinks. and he gets a ginger ale. *ugh.

he jumped into asking me why i was in the issue. how were my other responses. what sort of pictures i got (seriously dude-can we talk about ummm food or something) i answered politely  and short, just wanting to get off the topic. 

the rest of the conversation went well. a few silences, which i hate, but by the third silence i had my own inner monolouge on full blast.

"could i see myself with him? would he like simple food? would i resent him
later? i wish i was in my lounge pants. i wonder if my friends would like him. could i pitch him a movie idea? gees i wish i had a burger-med-rare. i wish i was still at "brunch" with the kiddos, next time i should do a theme-maybe all sweets. damn i wasted this dress on the first date, is it too short?i think he may be bored"

when we left (2.5hours later) we walked to the E, he-twds bklyn me-twds Queens. we had that whole could see each other across the platform bit. i opted to put on my ipod,reach for my book and thank goodness my train was there asap.my book got good, so i lost myself in it.

well-he was not that bored- we have been in contact this week. i just felt no spark. but he is funny.

the money part is an issue. i mean i am ramen he is high end sushi. can a relationship work with such extremes? would our friends mix well? champagne cocktails vs. 40oz.?

i agreed to see him one more time. i am hoping we can do something very low key-cheap so i can be relaxed.

so can i go and pitch him ideas? no? yes? i still have no clue what he does exactly....what is a producer??!! also he keeps mentioning my garters. i really wish he didnt. i mean-he didnt even try to kiss me!!

ugh. i give up on TONY. 

First Date stories

Post By:Lady M

1. I once had a first date that picked me up in a car filled with junk and cigarette cartons laying everywhere. The car also had a lovely scent of cigarettes and mold. As soon as we both sat in the car he asked me if I wanted a huge cross. He then pointed to the back seat, and long behold there it was. He said he had just stolen it from a classroom at his college. What a charmer.

2. I once dated a guy whose dad used to do porn back in the 70’s. He also said that his dad was friends with Ron Jeremy. Oh yeah, he took me to a Deftones show for our first date. I actually met him through a friend of his that I went on date with. His friend took me to a coffee place called Slave to the Grind by sarah lawrence. We walked A LOT and chatted. The next week he invited me over to his place b/c he was having a bbq ( he was a chef) I ended up hitting it off with my future ex ..so it goes.

3. I once met a goth dude online. For our first date we had tea at at an Indian restaurant in Astoria. After tea he walked me back to my car, and we talked for a couple of hours.

4. I met a bespectacled hipster in an art history class. I complimented him on his tattoos and we chatted about music.. For our first date we went out to a brewery that had a live band playing that night. We talked for hours, saw the band, and then headed out to some indie club a few blocks away. He said he didn’t dance . He also told me that his favorite radiohead song was Idioteque. So, I went up to the dj and requested the song. He played it and I made him dance. Hipster guy also played the accordian, which I thought was geeky cute.

5. I once met up with the john bender dude at a bar in the les.. His friends were with him but we chatted and had some drinks. After the bar we all decided to go dancing. We found a random lounge by Katz’s deli and danced for a few hours. We made out and got kicked out of the storage room in the back by the bartender..keeping it classy! We left and I randomly decided that I wanted to buy his friends doughnuts. He then walked me back to my car.

6. I met another hipster in a black and white photography class. He complimented me on my studded led zeppelin leather jacket and he let me listen to his i-pod. We met up one night at the MET and had an awesome time. We then decided to heat out to his turf in the Burg to Union Pool. Chatted for a bit and called it a night. At the time he lived in a loft that had a stripper pole. For out second date he invited me to a party at his place and I made him dance on the stripper pole.

7. I once met a skater dude from california that was really into hardcore music. For our first date..lol...he took me out to dinner at some mexican restaurant in the city. Some point during the date he asked to look into my bag because it supposedly could tell a lot about your personality. The restaurant converted into a club that also had a live salsa band. I can't dance salsa for my LIFE and neither could he. Some old couple next to us showed us some moves though. The restaurant was all the way downtown but we walked and chatted all the way to times square. I also took him to a sex store that night too where I proceeded to make him pose for a picture while he was holding a giant dildo.

8. I once went out with an Italian promoter guy who played the guitar. He took me to an underground club that looked like a rainforest once you stepped inside... I KID YOU NOT. There were plants everywhere and it sort of resembled a tiki bar We went upstairs and there was some pimp surrounded by his hoes who offered me drugs lol. We chatted, made out , and ordered shots. Really strange night but fun night.


9. I met this soon to be lawyer playing frissbee on campus. I threw the frisbee at him and accidently hurt his thumb. We found each other on facebook and went from there. He's really into music, film, used to play in a band, volunteer firefighter. We decided to meet up on Halloween one night to go to the Motherfucker party in the city. I went as some goth pixie chick and he went as a dude wearing a hoodie with a white face even though he's white... and then painted his eyes black. I had to pee really bad as soon as we parked so i headed into a seedy bodega and did my bizz. As soon as we got to the venue the bouncer said that the party closed down. So we get back to the car and decide to drive into long island. He knew this haunted cemetery in a secluded area by his house. We drive up the hill and I get really scared. At the same time he continues to tell me the background story behind the haunting. We still talk on face book.

10. Valentine's day date. Met him at a party and we ended up watching movies the whole night. We saw Closer and Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind. He was also into Radiohead and his favorite song was idioteque!! haha...



*draws blank* I'll post more stories later on...

The e-mails are still coming...

And the girls are getting cuter and cuter.
Uh oh.

Ugh.

I should not be given so much freedom with options! OVERLOAD! OVERLOAD!

Restraint.

I said I was done and I will be so.

Erasing PastaBoy

Post By:Lady A

PastaBoy:

Plans for 12:30.

Location secured.

I arrive at 12:23.

I leave at 1:06.

I sent him a text to say that I have arrived and if i should secure a table.

No reply.

No text/call.

I get a table, thinking he may just be late and what not, no biggie-order a cappachino.

I text the dating-is-stupid support group.

"wait a bit longer he may be in the train" (he works walking distance)

"shit! call him!" (i did-and refused to call more than once)

I pulled out laptop and continued working on some "real" writing. (10 more minutes-tops)

when it reached 1:03pm, I put my things away and got up and walked out.

 

the waiter couldn't even say anything to me, just a small "awww-poor you-smile"

i was not visibly upset.

no, Lady A could NOT lose her temper twice in one week.

Saturday was enough.

I had ordered a coffee which was "on the house"- yay a free coffee. is that the silver lining?

If it had been the secret I would be worried something happened to him. knowing he has a shit phone and knowing that he would have manners.

but this was a first date.

a guy who asked me out. 

i went through the list of things that may have occurred:

a)he got cold feet (hello its just date 1,i just wanted pasta, not to marry you!!)

b)he passed by and realized that he "just is not that into me"

 (again-do you even know how to say my name properly??JUST MET)

c)he was asked to join the Ghost Busters and protect the Island from an invasion of slimy

    ghost!(Sir F can we have a marathon of ghosts??)

d)he was so excited to see me, he fell hit his head and is laying in a coma at some UES hospital

or 

e) he is an asshole

the correct answer is E.

he called me hours later, I was working already: he apologized over and over again. he was held up in a meeting, he didn't have my number on him blah blah blah

I was calm, did not say much.

he asked me out again, "i will come to Astoria-i will make it up to you"

umm hello, NO! 

"I am sorry we weren't able to meet, but i cant see you. the very least you could have excused yourself phoned the restaurant and left me a message. THAT i would have understood."

*click-dial tone.

i don't think i even said goodbye.

actually the conversation was quick and swift and i am still trying to block it out, so the details are fuzzy.

i received a few text and a voicemail i have yet to hear.

i really wish i could say this was the first time i was stood up, but sadly it is not. 

i think that is also why i flipped out so much last sabado. being stood up sucks.

*le sigh.

RIP PastaBoy. i wish you had joined GhostBusters instead, :(

text gone wrong

Post By:Lady A

I am hating text today.

I am hating my BB today.

anyone who knows me, knows I avoid saying the word HATE in any context.

Have you ever:

.....written a text,and instead of sending it to the person for whom it was intended for you sent it to the person you were thinking of/mentioning in the text?

I just did that. Now, Just to show that i do have things very private in my life, in the text i did not mention names, just a nickname-which re-reading makes this situation even worse. But my friends 1/2 the time do not know certain details, and know i am not willing to share them.

they also are cool enough to focus on :is Lady A happy? or is she upset?:

not to sweat the details.

somehow i am feeling like the boy in this situation and feel horrible. 

did i confuse you? good-i just confused myself.

Time is so not on my side. 

and p.s. kiddos-i have a date Sunday-if this is a bust (which how this TONY thing has been it may just be) i am done with it, for realz

"SHE's just not that into you..."

Post by:Lady A

...is that what guys/gals will be telling my suitors??

i mean how do i nicely, without hurting feelings, say :i am not that into you:

i am in the same boat with Sir F. i want to quit TONY, i am STILL getting emails,STILL!! 

(ok yeah you can so be like "shut up Lady A" right now)

truth is, i am not used to this attention. and i must be sending off a "single" vibe because PastaBoy came up to me on the train.

its the emails. its the corresponding. its the length of the said emails. its the amount of time in asking and answering questions.

i have a "top 3" which is now down to just one. mainly because i am lazy, and being a  procrastinator 

(i told you i am a lazy dater- i have done my nails TWICE in the span of a week-never do i do that!)

this "1" from TONY seems great on emails. lets hope there is a spark. but i learned last week that without spark.....i am not going to even consider a 2nd date. i don't want to waste my (or their time)

also. i kinda like someone *shhh its a secret.

and while timing has not been our friend. i am having a blast when i do see him. i mean, i light up like 4th of july fireworks when he cracks a joke.

yes, we have chemistry AND he makes me laugh=dead sexiness and then there is the 

"oh yeah, i like you"

but in the past i would have wall flowered,stuck around waiting for the time to be perfect. that got me no where, and those guys were all over the place, so this time, i will keep a lil white picket fence up with a lock, but its not a master lock and he is tall so he could just jump the fence. 

metaphor gone too long....

....moving on.

i am meeting PastaBoy for lunch manana: he choose a location which i have been wanting to try (which a co-worker of mine said was fabulous) i may even text them and have them "walk by' to check him out if they are able to.

i have drinks with my #1TONY pick before he leaves for LA (date tbd, but i assume next week)

*le sigh

my brain is full. i think i will start sharing my horrible limited dating experiences so you kids can have a chuckle. anyone ever met someone's 'rents on the first date? yeah well i have.

for now:

i wish Lady N some luck in sparks:

i wish Lady M some great vibes from CLpunkDude

i wish Sir F suerte with TheaterChica, and a hug. *i am overwhelmed as well. its ok. your still mad hotCUTEawesomeADORABLEtalentedSPECIALfunnyCARING and someone will fall into your life when needed!!!

(did i gas up your head enough???!!)

besos babies!!!

Craigslist Update

So, Mr. Craigslist just responded with this :

Well hello love and thanks for the replay

Yes... lets hang 10 this weekend. Im also free most nights after 6:30.
Hmmm why is such a cute girl like you single?

Will


He has yet to find out that I'm really a two headed monster..





He also responded with his myspace and dear sweet LORD was I surprised. He's a REALLY HOT MENZ, just my type really. I scoped out some of his pictures that he had. He was in a band, has some bangin tats, and beautiful eyes. ANYWAY, enough of my rambling...ha. It's a date this Friday and I'm nervous but really flippin excited at the same time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHH!!! This weekend is going to be stock full of awesome sauce!!

I think I'm done with this whole TONY dating thing

Post By: Sir F
I thought about this a lot today. I've had a lot to think about lately. It was fun getting the e-mails and going on the few dates I had, but I think I'm done with it.

I don't mean to be so cryptic, but I really don't think it's a good idea I continue.

Will this mean I'll stop blogging here? No.

But I think I'm going to e-mail these ladies and cancel.

Shit just gets so busy and I don't have the proper time. Plus a prospect at the theatre has grown more, so...yeah.

Doesn't mean I will cancel plans to hang out with the lovely ladies on this blog. Why? Because they're super fuckin' awesome people and I want to hang with them because it's hard to find good people to share these life experiences with.

Sir F is done with TONY dating.

Marginally bearable P

I met up with, god what the fuck is his name....Oh right, P, the klutzy Brit. We were going to meet in the Upper East since I had dinner plans up there afterwards and it was his neighborhood. We met on the corner and he looked up at the bar we were standing next to and said, "How about here?" I thought to myself, "Really? You live in this neighborhood and didn't have a place already picked out in your head?" It was a little bright for my taste, especially for a blind meet up, I didn't really want too many people to be able to see us. He noticed my hesitation and suggested we take a quick walk to see what else there was. We walked past Brother Jimmy's and while I was smirking to myself because a guy I used to date lived above this bar and we had many "last drinks" there, P stopped and looked back at the bar and said, "How about here?" I couldn't hide the snobby "you've got to be fucking kidding me" expression on my face. Bro J's is ok when you're hammered and having one more drink before you go upstairs to shag your man, but NOT ok for a first date! He said lets just go back to the first place and I agreed, just wanting to get out of the freezing cold.

To sum it up, he turned out to be a bit awkward in person and while he asked great questions and we had some things in common, I couldn't help but feel the strong urge to look at my blackberry and see if any of my other suitors had emailed me. Not a good sign. While he was talking I Iooked past his head, longingly at the glowing orange Brother Jimmy's sign and wished I was sitting across from J (the former man) instead. I was so relieved that I had dinner plans afterwards because 50 minutes was just on the line of bearable, 51 would have tipped it over to the -un side.

P texted me today to say he had a great time and hoped to see me again soon. Really? Why is it that only the ones you're not interested in are the ones that call?

Hot dogs and Ms.Pac Man

POST BY: Sir F

I had my second "meet up" tonight and it was a lot of fun. She chose to meet at Crif Dogs, which happens to be one of my favorite places to grab a bite.

She was cute and funny and we ate hot dogs and played Ms. Pac Man. It was a good time. Though, I think I might have the same problem Lady A had. I mean, I found her attractive and connected, but...I dunno. We're meeting for brunch in a few weeks.

She's really really cool and fun, but it might be one of those things where I'd like to hang out, but not date.

I know ladies hate when guys say or do that. But...I don't know.

I had a LOT of fun regardless.

I have a handful of meet ups to go and I'm trying to figure out what's going on with a few ladies at the theatre. Guess we'll see.
I still feel like I'm in over my head.

Date # 2

Ok, I'm meeting potential cutie # 2 today. I will not make the same mistake as my last date with S (not the boogers guy) and will NOT be leaving the island, and made dinner plans afterwards with a friend so that there's no possibility of the date going into overtime.

He sounded cute on paper, a Brit in his 30's (more of my age bracket) who told me he once accidentally locked himself in a moving van and had to call AAA to get him out. Stupid with a British accent, just my type. : )

Will post details later.

I <3 Carbs

Post By: Lady A

A special thanks goes out to Mrs.Bee for gifting me the "I *heart carbs" pin back in 2006

this morning while on the R, i thanked the powers above that i am short and small and able to squeeze in a full train.

as i stepped out at the 59th st stop and rushed to the 6, someone grabbed onto my shoulder, i was ready to turn around and use my purse to beat them to a bloody pulp, when i noticed a cute suit holding onto my long opera length knit glove (gloves really hate me right now-what did i do to them!! ugh)

so convo:

Me: *takes off ear bud(the smiths blaring) "yes?"

Him:"Sorry didnt mean to scare you, here. " *hands over glove

Me:*fumbles "umm thanks"-turn to walk away

Him:excuse me! umm would you like to go out sometime, like for Italian, pasta?

Me: *confused look, "Umm sure" find pen/paper jot down number "why pasta?"

Him:I read your pin, I love carbs too!

Me:*confused

Him: *points to neck scarf

Me: "haha i am sorry-i forgot i had that one on"

he walked me down towards paperlandia.

*le sigh he will be PastaBoy

ok never in all my years have i been approached like that! thanks for jumping ship GreenGlove!

No Deal

Post By:Lady N

I kinda went on an impromptu random date tonight. It was with this guy that I had met almost a month ago but just have been too busy to meet up with. I should add that from past experience, when I've been "too busy", it usually translates to if I liked you enough I'd have time, but with the only free time I have, I prefer to see my girlfriends. I was hammered when I met him, which should be another red flag, I didn't really remember what he looked like or what we even talked about at the bar.

So tonight he sent me a text saying we should grab a drink. Again, I said I was busy packing since I'm moving on Saturday. He said oh come on... And so I felt bad, having blown him off for a while, so I said I was planning on grabbing a quick dinner if he wanted to join me. He met me on the corner of the restaurant and at the very least he did look better than I had remembered. But I had remembered him to be not attractive at all.

We had a quick dinner, and I would say it was pleasant, but I should have gone with my initial gut instinct which was if I had put off seeing him for this long that I wasn't all that into him. To sum it up, he was really sweet. But he blew his nose at the dinner table. That's a deal breaker for me.

OMG When Will It End??!!!

Post By: Lady A

Why am i still getting emails to my TONY account???

omg i am going to have a break down. 

every email is funny and well written! but i cant go on 30+ dates! (no i really cant-trust me)

I made 3 folders :Into:Maybe:Not Into:

I read once and filter them into the appropriate folder. if they are weird i delete. I have shared a personal email with two of them now, jut because looking into my TONY email freaks me out.

i keep myself pretty busy, i think that is why i was happy being in the situation i have allowed myself to be in. i only saw him like maybe once a week. chatted/text/email here and there, 

and NOW i am being forced to go out more, and be on "point"

ok i just re-read this, i am being a baby.

too many emails. and the red light on my blackberry mocks me :/

In Over My Head

POST BY: Sir F

Not to sound like a big baby and lame, but I'm kind of feeling in over my head lately.

I'm generally pretty busy with the theatre and performing, but with the addition of the TONY stuff and trying to find some work it's been quite the juggling act. It's sad when I have to schedule dates from 3 weeks from now. I'm still getting e-mails too. It jumped from a few potential dates to about a handful or more. In addition to that, some ladies I had fancied in the improv community have finally been showing some attention my way.

I know. OHHHHH, POOOOOR Sir F!

Here's the dilemma. Some of these ladies I've talked to or met already are or seem fantastic and cool. I tend to fall pretty easy for women like this and it worries me. I don't want to become some kid in a candy store and make bad decisions and develop a bad rep. Sounds simple enough to avoid, but EVERYONE can identify with it in some way or another. Am I right?

I'm not used to this. I'm not really used to having this responsibility (yet it's a sense of freedom). And I'm not sure what to do.

Jesus. I'm pretty sure I sound like the biggest creep right now. I can assure you, I am not a creep. I'm just a man who is very capable of making mistakes like everyone else (I saw those Hammer pants you once owned!).

You've caught me on a very open and honest day. Don't be surprised if I delete this post in a panic tomorrow.
EEEEEYYYYYYIIIIIIKES!!!

First Date Down.101 to go!

Post By:Lady A

all went well. conversation flowed. chocolate fondue was shared. 

Lady N made funny comments and gave him a "10".

  he ordered some lovely proseco. 

so why am i not into him?

i didn't get any tummy-flies. i need the tummy flies.

and he didn't even try to kiss me. but he may have just been proper.

i got this from Lady N today:

"Lady A,
Ok- thought you might want to see this : )
Even though you weren't that into him, sometimes it's very flattering to
know that someone is very into you : )

How's your day going? Any more OtherTONY updates?"
-Lady N
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Creme Brulee
Date: Sun, Feb 22, 2009 at 2:34 AM
Subject: Lady A
To: Lady N


"Lady N,

Just wanted to say thanks again for making an amazing night just that more
memorable. The fondue was second to the sweetness of Lady A!! (cheesy I
know) She has a great friend and thanks for putting her up to this! (the
Tony's personal ad that is)

Ciao
Creme Brulee "

I was chatting with QueensPunkTourGuideBoy today, telling him about my highs and low last night, and i told him that i gave my "date" a b-day card since his bday is monday. My friend in so many words said i am too nice and give too much too soon. basically i am a card whore. and while its a nice gesture, peeps may read into it too much.

of course i have to like the guys who DONT put effort into me. i was crushed last night and technology & time was my enemy. I lost my temper. i rarely lose my temper anymore, i try to just view things for how they are and not waste my energy being mad. i mean come on there are wars and what not going on in the world-why should i get mad because i am in brooklyn at 1am and my calls are not being answered????? 

i wish i could just like the nice guys who order prosecco and laugh at my stupid jokes. 

BUT NO

i have to like the guys who i go out of my way for, and who have yet to truly take me anywhere.

:( bleh.

i need tummy flips if its going to work. if i try to make it work with no tummy flips, there is a good chance i may cheat on the person. and i am not a cheater-so lets not go down that path.

[the Giant gives me tummy flips, and i even have become nervous when cooking for him. (thats another sign that i am into boys-when i get nervous cooking for them)]

Date Planner: ARIES

Post By:Lady M

My birthday happens to fall on April Fools day which in turn makes me an Aries. The funny thing is, is that no one has ever played a prank on me these past 24 years. I'm hoping this year someone will! Anyway, according to the AstroTwins:

Aries are the zodiac's powerhouses, so asking them on a date can be an intimidating process to begin with. Don't let the tough or hard-to-read exterior fool you. Underneath beats the heart of a traditional--and rather sensitive--romantic who is a little afraid of getting his/her feelings hurt. Don't go overboard with the surprises. Aries is used to being in charge and will want to be a part of the planning process. They also like to put their best foot forward, and will want to dress properly for the occasion. Lady Aries may be a grrrl-power icon, but don't skip the chivalrous moves. Pick her up at her front door, bring her flowers and insist on paying for the first date. Tell her she deserves to be spoiled sometimes.

They pretty much nailed my dating persona to the tee. I do consider myself a feminist but I also enjoy it when a guy is chivalrous. What girl doesn't?


THINGS TO DO ON A DATE:

Take Aries to their favorite restaurants: these fussy eaters love to frequent their favorite joint- I'm not a fussy eater and I don't mind if it's just a grey's papaya hot dawg at 3am with a milkshake

Intellectual Aries love to learn so a lecture at a nearby university will stimulate a great discussion- Sometimes true but I'd rather check out a museum.

Aries can be party animals, so head to a club or house party. Just make sure you're always close at hand when Aries wants your attention. They despise being ignored! -Definitely true...anyone want to go to Santos Party House soon??

Action movies with fighting scenes can stimulate the warrior in Aries- More like horror films..chessy B horror movies films are always awesome. Or, anything with Bruce Campbell in it.

Many Aries are highly political, so check out a film or play about global issue Not that political. I voted for Obama and I listen Npr on a daily basis.

Poetry is an Aries favorite, so head to open mic night at a café and don't be surprised if your Aries steps up to the stage! I've been meaning to go to the nuyorican poets cafe...

Lady A:Klutz

Post By:Lady A

its only a meet up. just one drink.

so why do you ask am i in a dress???

Because dumb me spilled iced coffee on my black slacks. so i smell like a walking starbucks/dunkindonuts shop!!!

i forgot my perfume and forgot to step into sephora to sprtiz myself.

i have no clue were my jewelry is.

i almost poked my eye out while doing my make up. 

i bit into a pepper in my dinner and my lips swelled a bit-and not in the cute A.Jolie way.

and i just looked at my nails and boy do i need a mani (black paint in the edges.gross)

yeah i am so not a girl. 

thank goodness the lighting is low at the lounge,

ugh.

i just really want to chill on the couch and watch a stupid movie (which i never want to do) and drink beers. 

Hi. I'm Sir F and I Can Be Awkward as Fuck!

POST BY SIR F

Sorry about the delay but I've been quite the busy fella the past two days.

So I had my first meet up on Thursday night. I call it a meet up because we had just agreed to meet for drinks and chat. Nothing fancy. But what is a date anyway? Titles, titles, titles.

We agreed to meet a place near the theatre since I had to do a show that night. I suggested a bar near there that I frequent quite a bit.

I was a bit nervous because I hesitated meeting up since she's quite young. About 21. Does that make me skeezy? Should I get a tiny comb and stroke my molestache and brag about my camaro? Anyway, I figured I'd just go because we had got along pretty well via e-mail correspondence.

I met her out in front of the bar and she already seemed very quiet and shy. We had an awkward hello and headed inside. There we started up the basic small talk, but there was quite a bit of silence and hesitation.

Let me say this...I'm TERRIBLE at small talk sometimes. ESPECIALLY on dates. Every time it happens I can feel myself tense up and I'm screaming in my head "You're better than this! You're not a boring guy! You're fun with a group of people! Wake up! You're fucking up"! So there was a lot of that going on.

I feel bad because she said she was tired from working and having classes all day and here I was with not an interesting thing to say. I could almost see the disappointment pouring forth, flooring me to that cold defeated floor.

Then, two of my friends walked in. A sense of relief shot over me! Thankfully! Friends were here to help me out! To save me and bring out the super awesome guy I am! Did I mention I'm humble? I knew they'd get conversation moving and we'll get cooking. After awhile with having a small chat with them she was being quiet and wasn't really chatting back. She started checking her texts and that's when I realized I had made a mistake. My friends felt it too and then asked "Wait. Is this a date? Are we interrupting?!" They felt bad and then moved over to another table. I apologized to her and she said it was fine.

After a few more minutes of awkward conversation she decided to head out. But when she did she said she enjoyed it and gave me her number and said we should hang out again.

It was weird because I could have sworn she seemed uncomfortable and not into it at all.

I can't tell if she was being polite or what. She was nice and cute. I'd hate for her to have done that just out of some obligation.

Strange thing is, after that show I ended up hitting it off with a fellow improvisor I knew through friends and had just recently started chatting with. We hung out again with a group of our friends last night and we had fun. So, in a weird way, the night wasn't a total washout.

Next meet up is Monday. We'll see how that one goes.

Creme Brulee Wins!

Post By:Lady A

And it is only because i flipped a coin.

so i have my first "meet up". i decided to grow a pair and accept a face to face meeting.

we have emailed:we have text and now we shall meet.

but i am sooo cheating, and i feel bad for the poor sap already.

i have asked him to meet me for ONE drink at Lady N's place of employment, where i know CurlyHairCutie and BarBoy.

QUESTION:would it be bad if i have Lady N, CurlyHairCutie & Bar Boy have paddles and pretend its dancing with the stars, they can score him on looks-manners-how many times he makes me laugh/snort? I sorta wish Sir F and Lady M were there too!

moving on.

i am hoping it is a short meeting. he has plans to go to a party (but has already alluded that he would like to spend more time with me-whoa buddy we haven't even met-slow your roll)

i have work-then rushing to drop off a press kit-rush to moms to fix myself-rush to bar to meet him.

this is going to be interesting. and i have this blogger crew as a text message support group

i have never just been out there and "dated" i am too lazy to juggle more than one person. one is too much even at times.

but i guess i should do it: i have to-or else this blog will be dull on my part.

if i were to write a book it would be called this:

"dating with training wheels:the adventures of a recovering prude"
;) its a working title.

what would your book be called?


p.s. i hope he does not fall in "like" with me in the first 5 minutes. this has been a recent trend.

Broke Guys Vs. Cheap Guys

Post By: Lady A

When it comes to money and dating I get very uncomfy with the notion of a guy “showering’ me with $ (wow that just sounded like I am stripping and he is going to make it rain ;) 

I don’t need an over the top date at a fancy spot.
If you ask me out, yeah I sorta expect you to pay. BUT follow up date I may suggest something and therefore my treat. If your old school and also somehow you actually are doing ok in this economy and INSIST on paying-well you will get baked goods from me.

 I also don’t want to spend hundreds (nor want you to spend hundreds) on getting to know each other.Its like *boom date 5 and we realize “eh I am just not that into you” and you see you have spent all this money.

So if your taking notes: Lady A hates wasting time & money

If I know you’re flat broke, I don’t push going out or anything of the sort. I am the type of girl who will cook meals for you so you can have a home cooked meal not consisting of ramen. I dont want money to be an issue on getting to know each other.

Now for another BUT

If you get back on your feet and you go out with friends and spend money, I will safely assume I have become food&booty for you, and thus you get cut off from both. So like Ms.Erykah Badu sings..."You better call Tyrone" 

being cheap differs from being broke. and being cheap and selfish....WORSE!

Again I am not saying you have to spend a ton of dough on me, but think about it this way; that vodka/vino/coffee you drank-those meals you ate at my place- someone paid for all that. Not including the time and effort in prepping those meals. That someone is me. I am mad broke as well, but damn skippy if I like you I will split toast with you and make sure you have more butter on your side.

I have dated that cheapskates who thinks “ that Lady A, she is a nice girl-she will always be around” as they throw back drinks being out with friends.

Well guess what buddies, Lady A has this new confidence that is fierce, and the days of me waiting at home for you to take me out-no mas. Go ahead-go out and spend money frivolous But don’t expect to get any more meals/booty from me. I do too much for others to begin with; I am not going to waste my energy on you!

*Steps off high horse

Best cheap dates:
Picnics in central park
Picnics at home (trust me this was fun)
Gallery hopping (and coordinate it right and there is free wine)
Game nights (with friends)
Coffee talk and travel scrabble
Catch at a park (also a fav-pre picnic)
Making dinner together/baking together
Being tourist and exploring neighborhoods with a camera (its cheesy-but do a lil
Research before heading out and it will impress your date)
Socrates Sculpture Park in Astoria
 Bring it old school. Color together and make all kid foods(Pb&j, macNcheese, grilled cheese)

there is like a ton more stuff I bet in warmer months. For now this is the list I can come up with while I wait for my nails to dry.

My personal:
I do love a good dance night & thank goodness cover for Goth is cheap (5w/out flyer 3 with), throw in pregamming at home and a flask in my purse (ghetto but needed)

As long as you give me one night out at Goth every 3 months I promise to rock your world later when we get home ;) nothing turns me on more than dancing on the dance floor slightly tipsy w/ my eyes closed. ☺ And bonus: you get to see me in corsets, and what not.

Oatmeal Bacon Cookies(w/chocolate) vs. Creme Brulee

Post By:Lady A

so i know everyone has been telling me i am freaking out over all this for no reason.

i wish everyone could have peaked into my email pre-deletes- the emails were long,charming,witty and LONG

i decided before i started hearing *you got mail: that i would respond to everyone that emailed me, seriously thinking that i would get 5 tops/and even less once i saw the picture they picked of me *ick

but i got a ton more than i expected. so sitting down to write, i didn't want to come off as generic and wanted to respond properly.

that sorta took a toll on me. i know i "blog" about my life-truth is i keep sooooo much hidden. even my closest dearest friends have to still sit me down and pry information on how i feel. so it was hard having to share myself over and over again with each email. i would rather keep undressing and dancing in pasties and boy shorts with stockings and garters than email about myself.

the last few days i have been corresponding the most with two suitors.  they both love food

one was a chef for a few years in Italy (yeah amazing right??) when asked what his specialty is he responded with :creme brulee made with lemon zest and fresh vanilla beans: 

*my sister-cio-pets response: "does he like depeche mode-if so marry him"

the second suitor is a hyper ball of energy and by peaking at his flickr is well traveled and loves to experiment and cook. when he first shared his food pictures with me (which i guess i was more interested in seeing then of him- i am such a fat girl)  I saw the pictures and feared that he may not be red meat friendly (yeah i think it may be a deal breaker in my book) but he sent me the picture below,which is Oatmeal/Chocolate/Smoked Bacon 

so on just that alone kids i pose you this question:

oatmeal bacon cookies vs. creme brulee

btw:both these guys are in their 20's. i have not dated someone so close to my age in forever!

Love, Lady A

The First "Date"...Coming Soon!

Post by:Sir F

It's 5am. I had my first "date" tonight. The two have no relationship to each other. It's late and I have to work this one day thing tomorrow, but I shall post about my experience ASAP!

dudes

Post by: Lady M

In conjunction with sir F's idea of a time machine to teleport him to 95' to scope of Miss Ryder I'd like to propose the same, but in this case I'd make it the 1950's and the object of affection would be Marlon Brando. I'd say Brando circa Guys and Dolls because I always love a nice dapper gentleman. Honestly, I don't even know what my type is anymore. I guess I'll give you all the ' types' that I've dated or have been attracted to.

1. The punk rock movie buff who looks like a younger version of al pachino or John Bender from the Breakfast Club

2. The bespectacled NPR, hiker, indie dude with full sleeved tattoos

3. The older punk rock chef who shares an affinity for the MISFITS

4. The film buff who has an obsession with Bjork and B horror films


I'm curious as to who my # 5 will be..time will only tell...

Lady A's Last Meal...

Post By: Lady A

I have cheated. when asked by my suitors how i would answer the question i changed it each time depending my mood. only certain things changed. so with that this is the one down and true answer:

Location: Namiquipa, Chihuahua, Mexico- Abuela Lupe's home, the courtyard (when it was all still there) i would love a crisp summer/fall day.

Time: (yes time) it would start at 1pm-9am following morning 

(btw everyone has been so morbid about reflecting and what not. somehow i just assumed it would be a huge party and i would just go home make love to my husband have him hold me and i would just never wake up-poor him he will need therapy and need to be a strong man!)

Who: Moo,Cio,PapaFrita & both sides of the family (plenty of alcohol will have to be around)

My friends, true friends, my plus one and any minis we would have created together.

Setting: long wooden tables and chairs in "el patio" candles everywhere in mason jars, fresh wild flower cut on every table, at least 4 bottles on each table at all times, Vino Tinto, Vino Verdhe y una Tequila-muy fina. (Cio-pet would choose the wines, and my Tio's the tequila)

I would want Music constantly, starting with a serenata brought to me by my husband as my 'mocos bring me cafe de la olla and a pan dulce and watch the marachis from the balcony of Tia Tere's home. 

Music at the feast of St.Lali :) would be a mash up of everything i love, but during the meal i would like tangos/flamenco and old school mexican marachi songs.  all live

ok now the feast, in no real order:

fresh tortillas-corn & flour

fresh crema

chicken hearts and gizzards in a tomato sauce

steak (med-rare for me)

tamales-all flavors made by Tia Malena

mole-all flavors

veggies of all forms how ever my tias would want to prep them

a lamb and pig roasted

arroz primavera

arroz mexicano

frijoles rancheros (made by moo)

roasted corn

roasted green onions

avocados

parilla de carne made by Abuelito Ernesto

salsas de todo

enchiladas

taquitos

flautas

 (ok this list is not even 1/2 way done-but all Mexican treats made by my family)

dessert-cio would have to make some apple crisp thingy, preserved peaches and apricots and sweet lil rolls. chocolate mint cake from moo, fresh ice cream from dad-vanilla and pistachio flavors. crepes with bananas and nutella, something decadent from NeighborBride.

ok and for the hangover everyone will have-menudo

i would sneak off at times with my husband to make love down by the river, in the woods, basically anywhere we wont get caught, but at 4 am when everyone is soo piss drunk- i would check on my mini's kiss them good night and know that their father and their Tia Cio will care for them always. My husband and i would retreat to a small house where the room will be filled with candles and the bed nice and big so we can make love one last time. and before i head off to sleep sip on crema de membrillo and feed each other fruits in between kisses. 

i have put way too much thought into this, and am way too sappy right now (not even on the rag!) 

i just love food so much!!!

Last Meal Response

Post by: Lady N

The answer to Lady A's question:

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"

My last meal would definitely be steak, medium rare (don't most death row inmates choose this also? I'm so cliche), mash potatoes with salt and pepper, baked potato, sunny side up eggs, and 2 boiled eggs. Does that sound weird? I really love potatoes and eggs. And fish sauce for my boiled eggs. I'm not sure, with this meal, if anyone would want to spend the day with me. Actually, I'm a little saddened by the fact that I can't think of someone I would want to spend my last day with. Whoever this person is would also be the person who prepares the meal because I think I would be too impatient. Maybe I would choose the guy dubbed Greatest Sex Ever...since I would obvi need to have a lot of sex before I go. And some kisses on my back. All of this would take place at a cliff-side bungalow overlooking the ocean on Koh Tao, Thailand. Mmmmm....

This would actually also work well as a first date. I would just replace the location with...my apartment.

First date: Who pays?

Post By:Lady N

That's so ironic that "F" just posted a blog about cheap dates because before going on my blind date the other night I was worried that I would be totally into my date but that at the end of the night he wouldn't insist on picking up the tab which is a total turn-off and potential deal breaker.

Before you get your panties in a bunch over this let me just post a disclaimer that 1) I am not a gold digger and 2) I am not the type of girl who thinks the guy should always pay. I have always been very independent and can take care of myself. I think that when you've been dating someone you can always say, "You got it last time, let me pick up this one," or, "Wanna just split it?" But, the first date is very different. It's just more about the gesture and gives a girl a bit of a sneak peak of the type of person you are.

Update: He did pick up the tab by the way.

He also never called.

"F," your situation is a bit different as you put on your profile that you're unemployed and have less monthly income than the fake designer purse vendor on the corner. Any girl who has written to you should be under the assumption that you're not taking them to Le Bernadin or paying. Perhaps they're even potential sugar mamas who just want to take care of you while lounge around in your briefs all day trying to design that time machine of yours. Some women just want to nurture and save poor souls. : ) I've had plenty on fun cheap dates, though for some reason I can't recall any of them.

You can always go middle school style and invite her over to your place to watch movies. Wait, you sold your DVDs.

BYOB and M?

Online Dating

Post By:Lady M

So as you all Lady N, Lady A, and Sir F were all involved in the nyc singles edition of Time Out NY. I wasn't a part of it but Lady A has suggested that I email some dudes. I'm not sure what to think about the whole online dating scene. I did meet someone online three years ago and it was the ONLY time I had ever done such a thing. At the time I was in college and I did it because I was bored. I'm anxiously awaiting to hear how my fellow blogger's dates will turn out.

Sometimes I randomly search through craigslist personals just for kicks but I've never answered one. As a search word I always use PUNK just to limit the search responses and they're usually the most entertaining of the bunch. I'll use this Valentine's

day ad as an example of something I would respond to. Although the "muffy-kins" part was full of cheese, I still thought it deserved a chance:

Being a single guy I'd like to take part in, and make light of, this uber romantic holiday! I''m slightly bored and beginning to get a little cabin fever. You feeling the same? I say we go for drinks tonight and be over the top (and almost comically) romantic everywhere! Make out in inappropriate places, call each other "muffy-kins" . It'll be so fun it's gross! Let's use every cliche in the book and make ourselves laugh.

I'm a cute indie-rock kinda guy. Tattooed, but not over the top. Funny, clever and fun. Let's mix our senses of humor and have fun tonight.. Maybe a Williamsburg or Greenpoint dive bar, listen to old punk, drink PBR's and make everyone jealous!

pic for pic, let's chat


I told Lady A the other day that my cut off age is 35 when it comes to dudes. Seeing that I'm going to be 25 in 2 months, I figured that 10 years was an okay enough age gap to date. Maybe I should just keep my options open not not strictly stick to a specific # On the other hand my parents have told me that I should date guys around my age so that I don't end up having to carry them around in a walker :X