Holy shit, I've been SO out of touch with the real world lately. Shit is bonkers and I about had a full on break down last week.
Needless to say, this has taken it's toll with the whole dating thing. It has crumbled right before my very eyes.
Maybe I should just appreciate the fact that I'm so busy lately. I do appreciate it. But then it just puts me back in the same place as before with relationships. I know I can find a balance one day.
Miss you guys!
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Sunday, March 22, 2009
slackers....
Post By:Lady A
we have been slacking.
so here i ask a questions:its our homework for the week......
give me your best "WALK OF SHAME" story.
Lady M-thanks for keeping us afloat. i guess the rest of us have been sucking at dating.
i gave up.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Wed Update
So after 20 phone calls, text messages, and voice mails and a 6am phone call I have decided NOT to hang out with punk karaoke dude again. He's a nice guy but 20 phone calls automatically elevated him to stalker status.
In other news, I was approached by a very attractive african american gentleman caller with LL Cool J lips on my way to work. He came out of his ford mustang, and said that he's been seeing me on my route to work since last week. I thought to myself, great another stalker? He told me he goes to Pace law school and that he was heading out to California today to compete on a mock trial competition. I told him that I studied law at Oxford one summer and almost took my lsats. So we share that common interest. He also said that he lives in the city center in white plains, which is a really expensive place to live in. I gave him my number and we're going to hang out once he comes back to New York next week. I hope he doesn't mind that I have tattoos since he doesn't seem like the type that would be into them. I was dressed conservatively today with a black skirt,heels, black shirt, and leather jacket. We'll see.
In other news, I was approached by a very attractive african american gentleman caller with LL Cool J lips on my way to work. He came out of his ford mustang, and said that he's been seeing me on my route to work since last week. I thought to myself, great another stalker? He told me he goes to Pace law school and that he was heading out to California today to compete on a mock trial competition. I told him that I studied law at Oxford one summer and almost took my lsats. So we share that common interest. He also said that he lives in the city center in white plains, which is a really expensive place to live in. I gave him my number and we're going to hang out once he comes back to New York next week. I hope he doesn't mind that I have tattoos since he doesn't seem like the type that would be into them. I was dressed conservatively today with a black skirt,heels, black shirt, and leather jacket. We'll see.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
MONDAY NIGHT!!!!!
Haha, another EPIC night last night. Can't stress that enough. I decided to go to Rock and Roll Karaoke last night at Arlene's grocery where I met a cs friend. We ended up hanging out for a bit then we signed up for the karaoke list. He did U2 sunday bloody sunday and I put down Danzig's MOTHER! The hot announcer said that clearly everyone who wrote on the list was dyslexic..ahaha. SO my friend performed his song and ROCKED OUT! Haha, then it was my turn!!!. Holy hell I was nervous!!! Before I got on stage the hot announcer pointed to me and said " I can't wait to hear what you're doing baby" I shouted back I'm doing motherfucking DANZIG! I got on stage after my friend and totally KICKED ASS! Seriously it was such a rush performing in front of all those people. I loved every minute of it. As soon as I got off stage I started rocking out and a mohawked punk rocker came up to me and started dancing with me. I thought he was cute, with his green mohawk and tattoos. We kept on rocking out and started making out in the crowd...classy! We left around 1ish and headed over to MARS BAR. It's an awesome punk dive bar with a KILLER jukebox. We got there and he introduced me to all of his friends. He's an older punk rocker although he does not look his age. He said he was 39! I swear I have a thing for older men haha. ANYWAY, he told me he does hair for a living and then he took out his scissors and started cutting my hair!! I told him I didn't want him to cut it short but he just made my ends even and fixed my bangs up a bit. He kept showing me off and said it was the best work that he's done in a while. He works at a UES salon so he works with a lot of prudes, no punk rock chicks. Then this photographer came up to us and wanted to take pictures of us. We started kissing and she took some pictures. They really came out great. Her name is Gabi Porter and she told me she has a flickr page. After hanging at mars bar for a bit I told him I would give him a ride home since he lives by me in the Bronx. The dude totally fell asleep on me and I was stuck driving around lost the Bronx and 3am. So I took him to my house..haha and we slept on my couch in the basement :) I gave him a ride to his apt this morning and we were talking about music, and life in general. Turns out he was at the Casualties show on Sunday!!!!! I told him I went too and he said that he's friends with The Krays and The Casualties since he's been around the scene for a while. I told him that I'm going to a Punk festival in Boston during my birthday weekend and he said he would go with me. " I'm lookin for a girl to spoil" He just called me up to make sure I got home safe. We're hanging out this weekend for sure!
Saturday, March 14, 2009
always a bridesmaid...
Ok, a little late, but finally took the quiz. Scary that it's pretty on point. I am a perfect catch!
The Maid of Honor
Deliberate Gentle Love Master (DGLM)
Appreciated for your kindness and envied for all your experience, you are The Maid of Honor.
Charismatic, affectionate, and terrific in relationships, you are what many guys would call a “perfect catch”—and you probably have many admirers, each wishing to capture your long-term love. You’re careful, extra careful, because the last thing you want is to hurt anyone. Especially some poor boy whose only crime was liking you.
We’ve deduced you’re fully capable of a dirty fling, but you do feel that post-coital attachment after hooking up. So, conscientious person that you are, you do your best to reserve physical affection for those you respect...so you can respect yourself.
Your biggest negative is the byproduct of your careful nature: indecision. You’re just as slow rejecting someone as you are accepting them.
The Maid of Honor
Deliberate Gentle Love Master (DGLM)
Appreciated for your kindness and envied for all your experience, you are The Maid of Honor.
Charismatic, affectionate, and terrific in relationships, you are what many guys would call a “perfect catch”—and you probably have many admirers, each wishing to capture your long-term love. You’re careful, extra careful, because the last thing you want is to hurt anyone. Especially some poor boy whose only crime was liking you.
We’ve deduced you’re fully capable of a dirty fling, but you do feel that post-coital attachment after hooking up. So, conscientious person that you are, you do your best to reserve physical affection for those you respect...so you can respect yourself.
Your biggest negative is the byproduct of your careful nature: indecision. You’re just as slow rejecting someone as you are accepting them.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
recession date
Post By:Lady A
we both are broker than broke, so i suggested that after work he come over for dinner and board games/movie/blog session.
he is a blogger,i could so see us with our laptops out at dinner blogging while on the date.so 2009.
i am trying to figure what a good date movie would be. i mean i know him, sorta, so i am not nervous, we laid our cards on the table, so we know neither of us is like wanting "till-death-do-us-part-babies" this very moment. i really have had such a bad week i want to just relax and laugh and not stress.
so question: what does one wear when the date is home turf?
anyone ever date sorta-friends? if so how did it go?
no more card giving.
Post By:Lady A
Lady A,
Hi. Just wanted to email you and thank you for the great time. It was nice emailing you and getting to know you. You seem like a great person, with a great personality, and someone I would have loved to have gotten to know better.
Sadly, I am not so sure you're that interested in me. I understand you're busy and I think its great you're finding work, but I don't even get a text or email anymore. I still have your card on my desk (along with the 10 Lady N gave me) but I probably should take them down. Let me know. If you'd like to try to get to know me, I am still willing. If not, good luck. I'm sure a great girl like yourself can find someone.
Take care
Lady A,
Hi. Just wanted to email you and thank you for the great time. It was nice emailing you and getting to know you. You seem like a great person, with a great personality, and someone I would have loved to have gotten to know better.
Sadly, I am not so sure you're that interested in me. I understand you're busy and I think its great you're finding work, but I don't even get a text or email anymore. I still have your card on my desk (along with the 10 Lady N gave me) but I probably should take them down. Let me know. If you'd like to try to get to know me, I am still willing. If not, good luck. I'm sure a great girl like yourself can find someone.
Take care
Creme Brulee
I feel like shite. how does one respond: "hi, i am not that into you, yes the emails were great but i felt no spark, i kept thinking of secret almost the whole time i was with you. your great, but not for me. how on earth did you fall for me so "quickly"? what happened to the other gals you messaged? and big huge turnoff for all this.
i will never do internet dating again. ever.period. .
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
i am a game console?
Post by:Lady A
My OkCupid Dating Persona Is...
Easy to turn on. Hard to beat. You are The Playstation.
You’re a nice girl, and you have lots of sex. It’s therefore highly likely that you’re attractive, and you’re certainly outgoing & friendly. Plus, this healthy physical attitude of yours indicates deeper emotional well-being and stability. Unheard of. When guys dare to dream, they dream of you.
You don’t get attached too easily, and, to wit, you’re not necessarily looking for something long-term right now. That’s a bigger asset than you know. Though, physically speaking, you’re open to anything, you’re keeping your emotional side well-protected. This means there won’t be a lot of wreckage to clean up whenever you decide to settle down.
In the meantime, the men you share yourself with actually respect you. Like them, you enjoy sex for its own sake and don’t need any other validation for pleasure than pleasure itself. Hopefully, you have the good sense to blow off anyone who thinks less of you for that. Usually, this is the part of the description where we offer some life-correcting advice, but honestly, we can’t think of anything about you we’d change. Keep on fucking, partner.
ok i am laughing my ass off!! Lady N its your turn.
Random Gentle Sex Master (RGSM)
Easy to turn on. Hard to beat. You are The Playstation.
You’re a nice girl, and you have lots of sex. It’s therefore highly likely that you’re attractive, and you’re certainly outgoing & friendly. Plus, this healthy physical attitude of yours indicates deeper emotional well-being and stability. Unheard of. When guys dare to dream, they dream of you.
You don’t get attached too easily, and, to wit, you’re not necessarily looking for something long-term right now. That’s a bigger asset than you know. Though, physically speaking, you’re open to anything, you’re keeping your emotional side well-protected. This means there won’t be a lot of wreckage to clean up whenever you decide to settle down.
In the meantime, the men you share yourself with actually respect you. Like them, you enjoy sex for its own sake and don’t need any other validation for pleasure than pleasure itself. Hopefully, you have the good sense to blow off anyone who thinks less of you for that. Usually, this is the part of the description where we offer some life-correcting advice, but honestly, we can’t think of anything about you we’d change. Keep on fucking, partner.
ok i am laughing my ass off!! Lady N its your turn.
Sir F Test Results
I took that test thing Lady M mentions below. I'm a little surprised by my result. Makes me sound like some mindless jock out for pussy.
I'm no jock!
I'm no jock!
Lady M : The Dirty Little Secret
That's right folks, I just wasted 5 minutes of my life by taking a lame OkCupid Dating Persona test. Funny thing is, is that it's pretty true to fact. So fellow bloggers, I suggest you do the same.
Innocent but fundamentally sexual, like the word “finger”. You are the Dirty Little Secret.
Few women have the confidence for sex mastery, and among nice girls, like you, it’s almost unheard of. So congratulations. You’ve had plenty of adventures, but you’ve remained a kind, thoughtful person. Your friends appreciate your exploits. They even live vicariously through you.
You seek pleasure, but you’re not irresponsible. You are organized and cautious, and you choose your lovers wisely. One, you don’t like dirtbags. And two, you like to maintain control. Or at least lose it selectively. You might notice that older men single you out. They have an eye for your sensual nature. Take it as a compliment.
You enjoy making people happy, and it’s inevitable that many guys will fall harder for you than you for them. You’re not completely comfortable in a serious, long-term relationship right now. Our guess is that the key to extended happiness will be finding a responsible, but kinky, mate.
The Dirty Little Secret
Deliberate Gentle Sex Master (DGSM)
Innocent but fundamentally sexual, like the word “finger”. You are the Dirty Little Secret.
Few women have the confidence for sex mastery, and among nice girls, like you, it’s almost unheard of. So congratulations. You’ve had plenty of adventures, but you’ve remained a kind, thoughtful person. Your friends appreciate your exploits. They even live vicariously through you.
You seek pleasure, but you’re not irresponsible. You are organized and cautious, and you choose your lovers wisely. One, you don’t like dirtbags. And two, you like to maintain control. Or at least lose it selectively. You might notice that older men single you out. They have an eye for your sensual nature. Take it as a compliment.
You enjoy making people happy, and it’s inevitable that many guys will fall harder for you than you for them. You’re not completely comfortable in a serious, long-term relationship right now. Our guess is that the key to extended happiness will be finding a responsible, but kinky, mate.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
I hear ya, F.
I read F's post about the emotions he's feeling When the Good Ex Gets Engaged. I know exactly how he's feeling. My "Good Ex", the one who broke up with me senior year of college to find himself, said he never stopped loving me and I assumed we'd find each years later, our older, more mature and stable selves back in love, called me two years ago to tell me he had gotten married over the weekend. The news blindsided me while I was browsing through the aisles of Barnes and Noble. I calmly said "congratulations" with what I hoped sounded like a hint of excitement, hung up the phone, stared blankly at a book for a minute, and then the tears just came pouring out. I just stood there, in the store, by myself, surrounded by strangers, crying and crying. I guess a part of me was comforted by the fact that I could hold on to him. That we could grow up, date, experience new things, and we'd have great stories once we got back together. But with his news, for the second time, it was over, and this time, for good. He was someone I thought I would eventually marry, so it really hurt that he had met someone that he loved even more than me.
I wished him all the best, he really does deserve it, but 5 years after our breakup I still find myself thinking about him, comparing every relationship to the one we had. I haven't loved anyone again the way I loved him, and I haven't felt loved the way he loved me. This confuses me greatly and I wonder if I'll ever find it again.
I wished him all the best, he really does deserve it, but 5 years after our breakup I still find myself thinking about him, comparing every relationship to the one we had. I haven't loved anyone again the way I loved him, and I haven't felt loved the way he loved me. This confuses me greatly and I wonder if I'll ever find it again.
EPIC NIGHT!!!!
Wow guys I don't even know where to begin. Okay well, first off I'm part of the COUCHSURFING COMMUNITY. What it is, is that people from all over the world sleep on random people's couches and host weekly events. This is totally legit and you need to have positive references to participate. I check the message boards and this couchsurfer named Jenny posts a message asking if anyone wanted to join her to check out The Black Lips Show last night at the Bowery Ballroom . I respond saying yes but at the last minute my credit card wasn't budging so I cancelled and told her that I was going to meet some other couchsurfers at Arlene's Grocery for Rock and Roll Karaoke night. So I'm about to go to Arlene's when she texts me saying that this TWITTER friend of hers has a free ticket to The BLack Lips show last night. She gave me his # and I go meet up with him at 57th and 7th ave. He ends up being the lamest fucking conversation I've had since BIRTH. The guy is some douchebag wallstreet prick who's not into music at ALL and only scored the tickets from his brother. I end up trying to make a conversation with him in the car but ugh he was so dry. Anyway, we get to the Bowery Ballroom and I meet up with Jenny and she introduced me to a fellow courchsurfer French astrophysicist NYU PHD candidate. I ended up moshing with him once The Black Lips came on. Omg seriously so much fun guys. I haven't moshed like that in a while. They KILLED last night..so awesome. By the way they're going to be in Brooklyn tonight if anyone want's to go, I'm SO DOWN to see them again. AMAZING SHOW!!! So we danced together and he was totally feeling me. Once the show finished I mentioned that another couchsurfer invited me to Rock and Roll Karaoke night over at Arlene's grocery. So we drive over go inside and meet up with the rest of the couchsurfers. HOLY HELL SO MUCH FUN!!!!!!!! We all totally ROCKED OUT at Karaoke. They played everything from Bon Jovi to PRINCE. I swear this hot ass John Bender looking punk sang the hell out of PURPLE RAIN by PRINCE. He was so good and all I could think about was taking him in the corner and making out with him. ANYWAY, at the end of the night all us ladies got on stage and moshed out the the Beastie Boys as we sang into the microphone. Seriously so much fun...you guys HAVE to hang with me!!!! I dropped off Jenny at the train station and then Mr. NYU got in the front seat. Once I dropped him off he kissed me and asked me if I was doing anything the later today. I told him I had a job interview but that we could hang this upcoming weekend. I think he liked the fact that I'm a little bit of a wild child with some smarts. So I just checked my phone and he said good luck on your job interview tomorrow, see you soon- Alex *swoons* So much fun tonight!!!!!! I'm going back to Arlene's for rock on roll Karaoke next Monday and you guys better be there!!!!!!! AWESOME NIGHT!!!!!!! So I'm inviting him to my friends birthday party and then I'm asking him and Jenny to check out The Casualties show at Europa in Brooklyn on the 15th. You guys are more than welcome to come. Sure to be a kick ass show!!! OI OI OI!!!
Sunday, March 8, 2009
When The Good Ex Gets Hitched
Have you ever had an ex or someone you really cared about at one point in your life announce they're engaged?
My serious college girlfriend recently got engaged to her boyfriend. The guy is cool and I'm still very good friends with her and am very glad to see her happy but there's still a weird sensation that came over me.
See, in some unrealistic scenario inside my head, somehow we'd get back together and things would all work out. Any previous problems that might have existed in our past relationship wouldn't exist anymore. We're older, wiser, we would know better. But now that possibility has evaporated into thin air.
Based on my recent relationships (including my own engagement), I wondered if I was even capable of letting that happen even if she had come back.
It makes me wonder... where the hell is my mind in the past few or more years? I've thrown away some potentially great relationships. It was pretty much my fault for letting that college relationship for falling apart. I've had my fair share of heartbreak and girls cheat on me or lie, but I've always been pretty much fine with it because I figured it would go south anyway.
So it makes me wonder. What will it take to make me feel like I did once? Am I so far gone from being that again, or does it just take that one person to turn it back around?
I think this is just the engagement stirring up all these feelings.
Otherwise I'm all fuckin' sunshine and puppy farts, folks.
My serious college girlfriend recently got engaged to her boyfriend. The guy is cool and I'm still very good friends with her and am very glad to see her happy but there's still a weird sensation that came over me.
See, in some unrealistic scenario inside my head, somehow we'd get back together and things would all work out. Any previous problems that might have existed in our past relationship wouldn't exist anymore. We're older, wiser, we would know better. But now that possibility has evaporated into thin air.
Based on my recent relationships (including my own engagement), I wondered if I was even capable of letting that happen even if she had come back.
It makes me wonder... where the hell is my mind in the past few or more years? I've thrown away some potentially great relationships. It was pretty much my fault for letting that college relationship for falling apart. I've had my fair share of heartbreak and girls cheat on me or lie, but I've always been pretty much fine with it because I figured it would go south anyway.
So it makes me wonder. What will it take to make me feel like I did once? Am I so far gone from being that again, or does it just take that one person to turn it back around?
I think this is just the engagement stirring up all these feelings.
Otherwise I'm all fuckin' sunshine and puppy farts, folks.
Thursday, March 5, 2009
can't it be easy?
PostBy:Lady A
simplicity is key.
characters in the play: boy and girl
feelings:either you like or don't like
communication: honest/open
time: when its mutual and when both parties would like to spend it together.
technology damages simplicity.
others meddle too much.
expectations ruin the natural attraction/initial feelings
communication-so connected-yet so far apart.
time together-feels like a chore.
*that's why i love moments when you first meet and you can have that passion without thought.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Lady A's First Dates
Post By :Lady A
1)i went on a date recently where my dates car wouldn't start, he tried jumping the car, no deal. we walked back into the bar we had drinks (we were about to go to a movie) i went into the bathroom and when i came out he handed me a shot and said "my parents are on their way, my dad is a mechanic"
i took the shot, and had some more drinks, had to make small talk with his mom. btw i had been on a "detox" that lasted like a week. and we never got to the movie.
2)i once had a guy ask me out to dinner (i met him via his mom-my co-worker) i met him at a coffee shop and paid for our coffees. he took me to a thai food place, yum, and he inhaled his food-gross. this kid did not come up for air! so dinner was silent. he took my leftovers-ugh. when the bill came- he said "you owe...",
later when he asked me what music i liked-and i responded synthpop-he went on a rant about how he hate electronic music.
we went for beers, and i didn't want to go through the awkward money thing, so i just paid for them. when i was annoyed i looked at my phone and said peace out.
he so went in for a kiss i gave him the cheek.
he asked for a second date:i said "umm i am busy"
3)i went on a date with a "FrenchFryCanadian" we met for Sushi in the UES.
i was so nervous but played it cool. (money+older guy=feeling inadequate)
mid way through the date asked me to take off my glasses. and then said " you have a lovely decolletage"
he kept talking about how uptight Americans are about sex, and how happy that i am not a typical American girl. i decided it was time for me to leave, since he was suggesting i go back to his place. outside, he pins me to the side of the building and kisses me.
this is what is going through my head:
"wow, this is not a good kiss-i wonder if i can make the path on time, will Q's still have drink specials? i need to get back seam stockings for my costume, did i pick up my dry cleaning? i should have not had that last sake, i need more boxes-i wonder if that guy i made out with at the BBQ will be at the party-i hope so, damn he was cute-what was his name?-i should have called him when i went to the Dali exhibit, ohh must look up the Dali movies, i hate how MOMA gets so packed-wonder what good off hours are" <-- all that took 20 seconds
i left, we never spoke again. he sent me lovely emails stating how much he loved spending time with me. i still am creeped out.
4)on a first date with an ex, we went to a lounge and had some drinks-it was so loud in the back upstairs room we could barely hear each other. and for a good 20mins a couple made out hardcore on a couch in front of us. i was at a loss for words.
5)i have had 3 different guys take me to the same "date trail":
Dinner at Spice (thai food) on University (it just moved) and dessert at Veniero's. on two of those first dates i sat at the same table-same waiter.
for the most part i like getting to know guys in more relaxed-not-like-an-interview dates.
and i hardly ever have a great first date story.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Art Gallery Date
I still haven't made plans with hot rod CL guy as of yet but I did come across another CL ad that caught my attention. It was titled, " Any non-ghetto Hispanic girls? - 22" Haha, I know and he's 22 I told you guys I was a cougar. Here's the ad:
- doesn't wear hoop earings and extra shiny lip gloss.
- will not try to pass off a fake LV bag.
- can pronounce Export Soda, Happy Birthday, and Corn Flakes properly (as opposed to "esporsoda, japi beldei and conflay")
- has a natural hair color... no, burgundy is not natural.
- is currently attending, or went to, a four year college, majoring in something other than medical assistance, social work, criminal justice, etc. (and no, associates degrees do not count).
- knows what town her family is from and can point to it on a map.
- is likewise at least mildly familiar with world culture and politics and can speak intelligently on some of them.
I am:
- 5'8, 140lbs
- a light smoker (mostly cigarettes, mostly marlboro reds, very rarely menthols and never EVER newports... )
- occasionally 420 friendly
- a light drinker, mostly scotch straight up, mostly on the weekends.
- a senior in art school (advertising/film), waiting to hear back from grad school.
- an avid listener of jazz, mostly latin and bop...
- the owner of two easily concealed tattoos, and a few piercings (none of which are cubic zirconium lobe studs).
- like Señor Borges, in that I think heaven will be a kind of library.
- scruffy.... short shaggy beard, slim jeans, wrinkled button-down, v-neck white tshirt, leather boots.
- sometimes a smart alec, but mostly a teddybear once you get to know me.
He replied back with a picture of one of his paintings and a picture of himself as well. He's really cute!!! He looks like like Penn Badgley from Gossip Girl. SO, we set a date for Thursday to check out some at art at the armory show and then we're meeting up with some of his friends that has a gallery show at the Nations Art Club in Gramercy. These craigslist guys are awesome!
- doesn't wear hoop earings and extra shiny lip gloss.
- will not try to pass off a fake LV bag.
- can pronounce Export Soda, Happy Birthday, and Corn Flakes properly (as opposed to "esporsoda, japi beldei and conflay")
- has a natural hair color... no, burgundy is not natural.
- is currently attending, or went to, a four year college, majoring in something other than medical assistance, social work, criminal justice, etc. (and no, associates degrees do not count).
- knows what town her family is from and can point to it on a map.
- is likewise at least mildly familiar with world culture and politics and can speak intelligently on some of them.
I am:
- 5'8, 140lbs
- a light smoker (mostly cigarettes, mostly marlboro reds, very rarely menthols and never EVER newports... )
- occasionally 420 friendly
- a light drinker, mostly scotch straight up, mostly on the weekends.
- a senior in art school (advertising/film), waiting to hear back from grad school.
- an avid listener of jazz, mostly latin and bop...
- the owner of two easily concealed tattoos, and a few piercings (none of which are cubic zirconium lobe studs).
- like Señor Borges, in that I think heaven will be a kind of library.
- scruffy.... short shaggy beard, slim jeans, wrinkled button-down, v-neck white tshirt, leather boots.
- sometimes a smart alec, but mostly a teddybear once you get to know me.
He replied back with a picture of one of his paintings and a picture of himself as well. He's really cute!!! He looks like like Penn Badgley from Gossip Girl. SO, we set a date for Thursday to check out some at art at the armory show and then we're meeting up with some of his friends that has a gallery show at the Nations Art Club in Gramercy. These craigslist guys are awesome!
Monday, March 2, 2009
"I am so not SOHO House"
Post By:Lady A
sign from the toliet @ SoHo House
Time:7pm
Location: The SoHo House
Date: MovieProducerDude
I get to what i *think my be the location, and the only inkling i have of it being there is the snotty look i get from a girl sitting behind a desk that i spot while i peer in.
just as i was about to text him, i see a tall guy with glasses walking towards me.
thinking back on it, i think he gestured two tumbs up. hmmm
anyways, we go in, and while we ride the elevator up, he admits he had not been here in a few months, and he thought it would be a good people watching. that put me at ease-"ok he is not one of THEM"
he choose a spot where i could take in the full experince. a waitress promplty came over, he gestured for me to order "Holy Water please" (ok i said vodka-soda-lime) and he ordered a GingerAle.
he let me drink my drink ALONE! i mean we agreed to drinks. and he gets a ginger ale. *ugh.
he jumped into asking me why i was in the issue. how were my other responses. what sort of pictures i got (seriously dude-can we talk about ummm food or something) i answered politely and short, just wanting to get off the topic.
the rest of the conversation went well. a few silences, which i hate, but by the third silence i had my own inner monolouge on full blast.
"could i see myself with him? would he like simple food? would i resent him
later? i wish i was in my lounge pants. i wonder if my friends would like him. could i pitch him a movie idea? gees i wish i had a burger-med-rare. i wish i was still at "brunch" with the kiddos, next time i should do a theme-maybe all sweets. damn i wasted this dress on the first date, is it too short?i think he may be bored"
when we left (2.5hours later) we walked to the E, he-twds bklyn me-twds Queens. we had that whole could see each other across the platform bit. i opted to put on my ipod,reach for my book and thank goodness my train was there asap.my book got good, so i lost myself in it.
the money part is an issue. i mean i am ramen he is high end sushi. can a relationship work with such extremes? would our friends mix well? champagne cocktails vs. 40oz.?
i agreed to see him one more time. i am hoping we can do something very low key-cheap so i can be relaxed.
so can i go and pitch him ideas? no? yes? i still have no clue what he does exactly....what is a producer??!! also he keeps mentioning my garters. i really wish he didnt. i mean-he didnt even try to kiss me!!
ugh. i give up on TONY.
First Date stories
Post By:Lady M
1. I once had a first date that picked me up in a car filled with junk and cigarette cartons laying everywhere. The car also had a lovely scent of cigarettes and mold. As soon as we both sat in the car he asked me if I wanted a huge cross. He then pointed to the back seat, and long behold there it was. He said he had just stolen it from a classroom at his college. What a charmer.
2. I once dated a guy whose dad used to do porn back in the 70’s. He also said that his dad was friends with Ron Jeremy. Oh yeah, he took me to a Deftones show for our first date. I actually met him through a friend of his that I went on date with. His friend took me to a coffee place called Slave to the Grind by sarah lawrence. We walked A LOT and chatted. The next week he invited me over to his place b/c he was having a bbq ( he was a chef) I ended up hitting it off with my future ex ..so it goes.
3. I once met a goth dude online. For our first date we had tea at at an Indian restaurant in Astoria. After tea he walked me back to my car, and we talked for a couple of hours.
4. I met a bespectacled hipster in an art history class. I complimented him on his tattoos and we chatted about music.. For our first date we went out to a brewery that had a live band playing that night. We talked for hours, saw the band, and then headed out to some indie club a few blocks away. He said he didn’t dance . He also told me that his favorite radiohead song was Idioteque. So, I went up to the dj and requested the song. He played it and I made him dance. Hipster guy also played the accordian, which I thought was geeky cute.
5. I once met up with the john bender dude at a bar in the les.. His friends were with him but we chatted and had some drinks. After the bar we all decided to go dancing. We found a random lounge by Katz’s deli and danced for a few hours. We made out and got kicked out of the storage room in the back by the bartender..keeping it classy! We left and I randomly decided that I wanted to buy his friends doughnuts. He then walked me back to my car.
6. I met another hipster in a black and white photography class. He complimented me on my studded led zeppelin leather jacket and he let me listen to his i-pod. We met up one night at the MET and had an awesome time. We then decided to heat out to his turf in the Burg to Union Pool. Chatted for a bit and called it a night. At the time he lived in a loft that had a stripper pole. For out second date he invited me to a party at his place and I made him dance on the stripper pole.
7. I once met a skater dude from california that was really into hardcore music. For our first date..lol...he took me out to dinner at some mexican restaurant in the city. Some point during the date he asked to look into my bag because it supposedly could tell a lot about your personality. The restaurant converted into a club that also had a live salsa band. I can't dance salsa for my LIFE and neither could he. Some old couple next to us showed us some moves though. The restaurant was all the way downtown but we walked and chatted all the way to times square. I also took him to a sex store that night too where I proceeded to make him pose for a picture while he was holding a giant dildo.
8. I once went out with an Italian promoter guy who played the guitar. He took me to an underground club that looked like a rainforest once you stepped inside... I KID YOU NOT. There were plants everywhere and it sort of resembled a tiki bar We went upstairs and there was some pimp surrounded by his hoes who offered me drugs lol. We chatted, made out , and ordered shots. Really strange night but fun night.
9. I met this soon to be lawyer playing frissbee on campus. I threw the frisbee at him and accidently hurt his thumb. We found each other on facebook and went from there. He's really into music, film, used to play in a band, volunteer firefighter. We decided to meet up on Halloween one night to go to the Motherfucker party in the city. I went as some goth pixie chick and he went as a dude wearing a hoodie with a white face even though he's white... and then painted his eyes black. I had to pee really bad as soon as we parked so i headed into a seedy bodega and did my bizz. As soon as we got to the venue the bouncer said that the party closed down. So we get back to the car and decide to drive into long island. He knew this haunted cemetery in a secluded area by his house. We drive up the hill and I get really scared. At the same time he continues to tell me the background story behind the haunting. We still talk on face book.
10. Valentine's day date. Met him at a party and we ended up watching movies the whole night. We saw Closer and Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind. He was also into Radiohead and his favorite song was idioteque!! haha...
*draws blank* I'll post more stories later on...
1. I once had a first date that picked me up in a car filled with junk and cigarette cartons laying everywhere. The car also had a lovely scent of cigarettes and mold. As soon as we both sat in the car he asked me if I wanted a huge cross. He then pointed to the back seat, and long behold there it was. He said he had just stolen it from a classroom at his college. What a charmer.
2. I once dated a guy whose dad used to do porn back in the 70’s. He also said that his dad was friends with Ron Jeremy. Oh yeah, he took me to a Deftones show for our first date. I actually met him through a friend of his that I went on date with. His friend took me to a coffee place called Slave to the Grind by sarah lawrence. We walked A LOT and chatted. The next week he invited me over to his place b/c he was having a bbq ( he was a chef) I ended up hitting it off with my future ex ..so it goes.
3. I once met a goth dude online. For our first date we had tea at at an Indian restaurant in Astoria. After tea he walked me back to my car, and we talked for a couple of hours.
4. I met a bespectacled hipster in an art history class. I complimented him on his tattoos and we chatted about music.. For our first date we went out to a brewery that had a live band playing that night. We talked for hours, saw the band, and then headed out to some indie club a few blocks away. He said he didn’t dance . He also told me that his favorite radiohead song was Idioteque. So, I went up to the dj and requested the song. He played it and I made him dance. Hipster guy also played the accordian, which I thought was geeky cute.
5. I once met up with the john bender dude at a bar in the les.. His friends were with him but we chatted and had some drinks. After the bar we all decided to go dancing. We found a random lounge by Katz’s deli and danced for a few hours. We made out and got kicked out of the storage room in the back by the bartender..keeping it classy! We left and I randomly decided that I wanted to buy his friends doughnuts. He then walked me back to my car.
6. I met another hipster in a black and white photography class. He complimented me on my studded led zeppelin leather jacket and he let me listen to his i-pod. We met up one night at the MET and had an awesome time. We then decided to heat out to his turf in the Burg to Union Pool. Chatted for a bit and called it a night. At the time he lived in a loft that had a stripper pole. For out second date he invited me to a party at his place and I made him dance on the stripper pole.
7. I once met a skater dude from california that was really into hardcore music. For our first date..lol...he took me out to dinner at some mexican restaurant in the city. Some point during the date he asked to look into my bag because it supposedly could tell a lot about your personality. The restaurant converted into a club that also had a live salsa band. I can't dance salsa for my LIFE and neither could he. Some old couple next to us showed us some moves though. The restaurant was all the way downtown but we walked and chatted all the way to times square. I also took him to a sex store that night too where I proceeded to make him pose for a picture while he was holding a giant dildo.
8. I once went out with an Italian promoter guy who played the guitar. He took me to an underground club that looked like a rainforest once you stepped inside... I KID YOU NOT. There were plants everywhere and it sort of resembled a tiki bar We went upstairs and there was some pimp surrounded by his hoes who offered me drugs lol. We chatted, made out , and ordered shots. Really strange night but fun night.
9. I met this soon to be lawyer playing frissbee on campus. I threw the frisbee at him and accidently hurt his thumb. We found each other on facebook and went from there. He's really into music, film, used to play in a band, volunteer firefighter. We decided to meet up on Halloween one night to go to the Motherfucker party in the city. I went as some goth pixie chick and he went as a dude wearing a hoodie with a white face even though he's white... and then painted his eyes black. I had to pee really bad as soon as we parked so i headed into a seedy bodega and did my bizz. As soon as we got to the venue the bouncer said that the party closed down. So we get back to the car and decide to drive into long island. He knew this haunted cemetery in a secluded area by his house. We drive up the hill and I get really scared. At the same time he continues to tell me the background story behind the haunting. We still talk on face book.
10. Valentine's day date. Met him at a party and we ended up watching movies the whole night. We saw Closer and Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind. He was also into Radiohead and his favorite song was idioteque!! haha...
*draws blank* I'll post more stories later on...
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