Lady A & Lady N update

post by Lady A

Thanks Sir F, for checking in on us....


lets see, when you last left off with Lady A (moi)
I had given up on dating.

I still have given up. On Tony and just in general. Too many players and I hate the game(s)

:) nahhh. just focusing on my 'ish. gone out here and there. no real real dates. still would not mind have a summer steady thing.

as of late i have been smitten :) but nothing crazy,and nothing i can't share without speaking to Lady N first.

Lady N update: she is in her homeland. living it up. and she will be back really soon!!!

slackers....

Post By:Lady A

...Sir F, Lady N, and myself-Lady A

we have been slacking.

so here i ask a questions:its our homework for the week......

give me your best "WALK OF SHAME" story.

Lady M-thanks for keeping us afloat. i guess the rest of us have been sucking at dating.

i gave up.

recession date

Post By:Lady A

so this guy asked me out, and we have a date friday. i will not nickname him. i have been thinking about one for him, but decided against it.

we both are broker than broke, so i suggested that after work he come over for dinner and board games/movie/blog session.

he is a blogger,i could so see us with our laptops out at dinner blogging while on the date.so 2009.

i am trying to figure what a good date movie would be. i mean i know him, sorta, so i am not nervous, we laid our cards on the table, so we know neither of us is like wanting "till-death-do-us-part-babies" this very moment. i really have had such a bad week i want to just relax and laugh and not stress.

so question: what does one wear when the date is home turf?

anyone ever date sorta-friends? if so how did it go?

no more card giving.

Post By:Lady A

Lady A,

Hi. Just wanted to email you and thank you for the great time. It was nice emailing you and getting to know you. You seem like a great person, with a great personality, and someone I would have loved to have gotten to know better.

Sadly, I am not so sure you're that interested in me. I understand you're busy and I think its great you're finding work, but I don't even get a text or email anymore. I still have your card on my desk (along with the 10 Lady N gave me) but I probably should take them down. Let me know. If you'd like to try to get to know me, I am still willing. If not, good luck. I'm sure a great girl like yourself can find someone.

Take care

Creme Brulee

I feel like shite. how does one respond: "hi, i am not that into you, yes the emails were great but i felt no spark, i kept thinking of secret almost the whole time i was with you. your great, but not for me. how on earth did you fall for me so "quickly"? what happened to the other gals you messaged? and big huge turnoff for all this.

i will never do internet dating again. ever.period. .

i am a game console?

Post by:Lady A

My OkCupid Dating Persona Is...

The Playstation

Random Gentle Sex Master (RGSM)

Easy to turn on. Hard to beat. You are The Playstation.

You’re a nice girl, and you have lots of sex. It’s therefore highly likely that you’re attractive, and you’re certainly outgoing & friendly. Plus, this healthy physical attitude of yours indicates deeper emotional well-being and stability. Unheard of. When guys dare to dream, they dream of you.

You don’t get attached too easily, and, to wit, you’re not necessarily looking for something long-term right now. That’s a bigger asset than you know. Though, physically speaking, you’re open to anything, you’re keeping your emotional side well-protected. This means there won’t be a lot of wreckage to clean up whenever you decide to settle down.

In the meantime, the men you share yourself with actually respect you. Like them, you enjoy sex for its own sake and don’t need any other validation for pleasure than pleasure itself. Hopefully, you have the good sense to blow off anyone who thinks less of you for that. Usually, this is the part of the description where we offer some life-correcting advice, but honestly, we can’t think of anything about you we’d change. Keep on fucking, partner.

ok i am laughing my ass off!! Lady N its your turn.

Lady A's First Dates

Post By :Lady A

1)i went on a date recently where my dates car wouldn't start, he tried jumping the car, no deal. we walked back into the bar we had drinks (we were about to go to a movie) i went into the bathroom and when i came out he handed me a shot and said "my parents are on their way, my dad is a mechanic"

i took the shot, and had some more drinks, had to make small talk with his mom. btw i had been on a "detox" that lasted like a week. and we never got to the movie.

2)i once had a guy ask me out to dinner (i met him via his mom-my co-worker)  i met him at a coffee shop and paid for our coffees. he took me to a thai food place, yum, and he inhaled his food-gross. this kid did not come up for air! so dinner was silent. he took my leftovers-ugh. when the bill came- he said "you owe...", 

later when he asked me what music i liked-and i responded synthpop-he went on a rant about how he hate electronic music. 

we went for beers, and i didn't want to go through the awkward money thing, so i just paid for them. when i was annoyed i looked at my phone and said peace out. 

he so went in for a kiss i gave him the cheek.

he asked for a second date:i said "umm i am busy"

3)i went on a date with a "FrenchFryCanadian" we met for Sushi in the UES.

i was so nervous but played it cool. (money+older guy=feeling inadequate)

mid way through the date asked me to take off my glasses. and then said " you have a lovely decolletage"

he kept talking about how uptight Americans are about sex, and how happy that i am not a typical American girl. i decided it was time for me to leave, since he was suggesting i go back to his place. outside, he pins me to the side of the building and kisses me. 

this is what is going through my head:

"wow, this is not a good kiss-i wonder if i can make the path on time, will Q's still have drink specials? i need to get back seam stockings for my costume, did i pick up my dry cleaning? i should have not had that last sake, i need more boxes-i wonder if that guy i made out with at the BBQ will be at the party-i hope so, damn he was cute-what was his name?-i should have called him when i went to the Dali exhibit, ohh must look up the Dali movies, i hate how MOMA gets so packed-wonder what good off hours are" <-- all that took 20 seconds

i left, we never spoke again. he sent me lovely emails stating how much he loved spending time with me. i still am creeped out.

4)on a first date with an ex, we went to a lounge and had some drinks-it was so loud in the back upstairs room we could barely hear each other. and for a good 20mins a couple made out hardcore on a couch in front of us. i was at a loss for words.

5)i have had 3 different guys take me to the same "date trail":

Dinner at Spice (thai food) on University (it just moved) and dessert at Veniero's. on two of those first dates  i sat at the same table-same waiter. 

for the most part i like getting to know guys in more relaxed-not-like-an-interview dates.

and i hardly ever have a great first date story.

Erasing PastaBoy

Post By:Lady A

PastaBoy:

Plans for 12:30.

Location secured.

I arrive at 12:23.

I leave at 1:06.

I sent him a text to say that I have arrived and if i should secure a table.

No reply.

No text/call.

I get a table, thinking he may just be late and what not, no biggie-order a cappachino.

I text the dating-is-stupid support group.

"wait a bit longer he may be in the train" (he works walking distance)

"shit! call him!" (i did-and refused to call more than once)

I pulled out laptop and continued working on some "real" writing. (10 more minutes-tops)

when it reached 1:03pm, I put my things away and got up and walked out.

 

the waiter couldn't even say anything to me, just a small "awww-poor you-smile"

i was not visibly upset.

no, Lady A could NOT lose her temper twice in one week.

Saturday was enough.

I had ordered a coffee which was "on the house"- yay a free coffee. is that the silver lining?

If it had been the secret I would be worried something happened to him. knowing he has a shit phone and knowing that he would have manners.

but this was a first date.

a guy who asked me out. 

i went through the list of things that may have occurred:

a)he got cold feet (hello its just date 1,i just wanted pasta, not to marry you!!)

b)he passed by and realized that he "just is not that into me"

 (again-do you even know how to say my name properly??JUST MET)

c)he was asked to join the Ghost Busters and protect the Island from an invasion of slimy

    ghost!(Sir F can we have a marathon of ghosts??)

d)he was so excited to see me, he fell hit his head and is laying in a coma at some UES hospital

or 

e) he is an asshole

the correct answer is E.

he called me hours later, I was working already: he apologized over and over again. he was held up in a meeting, he didn't have my number on him blah blah blah

I was calm, did not say much.

he asked me out again, "i will come to Astoria-i will make it up to you"

umm hello, NO! 

"I am sorry we weren't able to meet, but i cant see you. the very least you could have excused yourself phoned the restaurant and left me a message. THAT i would have understood."

*click-dial tone.

i don't think i even said goodbye.

actually the conversation was quick and swift and i am still trying to block it out, so the details are fuzzy.

i received a few text and a voicemail i have yet to hear.

i really wish i could say this was the first time i was stood up, but sadly it is not. 

i think that is also why i flipped out so much last sabado. being stood up sucks.

*le sigh.

RIP PastaBoy. i wish you had joined GhostBusters instead, :(

text gone wrong

Post By:Lady A

I am hating text today.

I am hating my BB today.

anyone who knows me, knows I avoid saying the word HATE in any context.

Have you ever:

.....written a text,and instead of sending it to the person for whom it was intended for you sent it to the person you were thinking of/mentioning in the text?

I just did that. Now, Just to show that i do have things very private in my life, in the text i did not mention names, just a nickname-which re-reading makes this situation even worse. But my friends 1/2 the time do not know certain details, and know i am not willing to share them.

they also are cool enough to focus on :is Lady A happy? or is she upset?:

not to sweat the details.

somehow i am feeling like the boy in this situation and feel horrible. 

did i confuse you? good-i just confused myself.

Time is so not on my side. 

and p.s. kiddos-i have a date Sunday-if this is a bust (which how this TONY thing has been it may just be) i am done with it, for realz

"SHE's just not that into you..."

Post by:Lady A

...is that what guys/gals will be telling my suitors??

i mean how do i nicely, without hurting feelings, say :i am not that into you:

i am in the same boat with Sir F. i want to quit TONY, i am STILL getting emails,STILL!! 

(ok yeah you can so be like "shut up Lady A" right now)

truth is, i am not used to this attention. and i must be sending off a "single" vibe because PastaBoy came up to me on the train.

its the emails. its the corresponding. its the length of the said emails. its the amount of time in asking and answering questions.

i have a "top 3" which is now down to just one. mainly because i am lazy, and being a  procrastinator 

(i told you i am a lazy dater- i have done my nails TWICE in the span of a week-never do i do that!)

this "1" from TONY seems great on emails. lets hope there is a spark. but i learned last week that without spark.....i am not going to even consider a 2nd date. i don't want to waste my (or their time)

also. i kinda like someone *shhh its a secret.

and while timing has not been our friend. i am having a blast when i do see him. i mean, i light up like 4th of july fireworks when he cracks a joke.

yes, we have chemistry AND he makes me laugh=dead sexiness and then there is the 

"oh yeah, i like you"

but in the past i would have wall flowered,stuck around waiting for the time to be perfect. that got me no where, and those guys were all over the place, so this time, i will keep a lil white picket fence up with a lock, but its not a master lock and he is tall so he could just jump the fence. 

metaphor gone too long....

....moving on.

i am meeting PastaBoy for lunch manana: he choose a location which i have been wanting to try (which a co-worker of mine said was fabulous) i may even text them and have them "walk by' to check him out if they are able to.

i have drinks with my #1TONY pick before he leaves for LA (date tbd, but i assume next week)

*le sigh

my brain is full. i think i will start sharing my horrible limited dating experiences so you kids can have a chuckle. anyone ever met someone's 'rents on the first date? yeah well i have.

for now:

i wish Lady N some luck in sparks:

i wish Lady M some great vibes from CLpunkDude

i wish Sir F suerte with TheaterChica, and a hug. *i am overwhelmed as well. its ok. your still mad hotCUTEawesomeADORABLEtalentedSPECIALfunnyCARING and someone will fall into your life when needed!!!

(did i gas up your head enough???!!)

besos babies!!!

I <3 Carbs

Post By: Lady A

A special thanks goes out to Mrs.Bee for gifting me the "I *heart carbs" pin back in 2006

this morning while on the R, i thanked the powers above that i am short and small and able to squeeze in a full train.

as i stepped out at the 59th st stop and rushed to the 6, someone grabbed onto my shoulder, i was ready to turn around and use my purse to beat them to a bloody pulp, when i noticed a cute suit holding onto my long opera length knit glove (gloves really hate me right now-what did i do to them!! ugh)

so convo:

Me: *takes off ear bud(the smiths blaring) "yes?"

Him:"Sorry didnt mean to scare you, here. " *hands over glove

Me:*fumbles "umm thanks"-turn to walk away

Him:excuse me! umm would you like to go out sometime, like for Italian, pasta?

Me: *confused look, "Umm sure" find pen/paper jot down number "why pasta?"

Him:I read your pin, I love carbs too!

Me:*confused

Him: *points to neck scarf

Me: "haha i am sorry-i forgot i had that one on"

he walked me down towards paperlandia.

*le sigh he will be PastaBoy

ok never in all my years have i been approached like that! thanks for jumping ship GreenGlove!

OMG When Will It End??!!!

Post By: Lady A

Why am i still getting emails to my TONY account???

omg i am going to have a break down. 

every email is funny and well written! but i cant go on 30+ dates! (no i really cant-trust me)

I made 3 folders :Into:Maybe:Not Into:

I read once and filter them into the appropriate folder. if they are weird i delete. I have shared a personal email with two of them now, jut because looking into my TONY email freaks me out.

i keep myself pretty busy, i think that is why i was happy being in the situation i have allowed myself to be in. i only saw him like maybe once a week. chatted/text/email here and there, 

and NOW i am being forced to go out more, and be on "point"

ok i just re-read this, i am being a baby.

too many emails. and the red light on my blackberry mocks me :/

First Date Down.101 to go!

Post By:Lady A

all went well. conversation flowed. chocolate fondue was shared. 

Lady N made funny comments and gave him a "10".

  he ordered some lovely proseco. 

so why am i not into him?

i didn't get any tummy-flies. i need the tummy flies.

and he didn't even try to kiss me. but he may have just been proper.

i got this from Lady N today:

"Lady A,
Ok- thought you might want to see this : )
Even though you weren't that into him, sometimes it's very flattering to
know that someone is very into you : )

How's your day going? Any more OtherTONY updates?"
-Lady N
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Creme Brulee
Date: Sun, Feb 22, 2009 at 2:34 AM
Subject: Lady A
To: Lady N


"Lady N,

Just wanted to say thanks again for making an amazing night just that more
memorable. The fondue was second to the sweetness of Lady A!! (cheesy I
know) She has a great friend and thanks for putting her up to this! (the
Tony's personal ad that is)

Ciao
Creme Brulee "

I was chatting with QueensPunkTourGuideBoy today, telling him about my highs and low last night, and i told him that i gave my "date" a b-day card since his bday is monday. My friend in so many words said i am too nice and give too much too soon. basically i am a card whore. and while its a nice gesture, peeps may read into it too much.

of course i have to like the guys who DONT put effort into me. i was crushed last night and technology & time was my enemy. I lost my temper. i rarely lose my temper anymore, i try to just view things for how they are and not waste my energy being mad. i mean come on there are wars and what not going on in the world-why should i get mad because i am in brooklyn at 1am and my calls are not being answered????? 

i wish i could just like the nice guys who order prosecco and laugh at my stupid jokes. 

BUT NO

i have to like the guys who i go out of my way for, and who have yet to truly take me anywhere.

:( bleh.

i need tummy flips if its going to work. if i try to make it work with no tummy flips, there is a good chance i may cheat on the person. and i am not a cheater-so lets not go down that path.

[the Giant gives me tummy flips, and i even have become nervous when cooking for him. (thats another sign that i am into boys-when i get nervous cooking for them)]

Lady A:Klutz

Post By:Lady A

its only a meet up. just one drink.

so why do you ask am i in a dress???

Because dumb me spilled iced coffee on my black slacks. so i smell like a walking starbucks/dunkindonuts shop!!!

i forgot my perfume and forgot to step into sephora to sprtiz myself.

i have no clue were my jewelry is.

i almost poked my eye out while doing my make up. 

i bit into a pepper in my dinner and my lips swelled a bit-and not in the cute A.Jolie way.

and i just looked at my nails and boy do i need a mani (black paint in the edges.gross)

yeah i am so not a girl. 

thank goodness the lighting is low at the lounge,

ugh.

i just really want to chill on the couch and watch a stupid movie (which i never want to do) and drink beers. 

Creme Brulee Wins!

Post By:Lady A

And it is only because i flipped a coin.

so i have my first "meet up". i decided to grow a pair and accept a face to face meeting.

we have emailed:we have text and now we shall meet.

but i am sooo cheating, and i feel bad for the poor sap already.

i have asked him to meet me for ONE drink at Lady N's place of employment, where i know CurlyHairCutie and BarBoy.

QUESTION:would it be bad if i have Lady N, CurlyHairCutie & Bar Boy have paddles and pretend its dancing with the stars, they can score him on looks-manners-how many times he makes me laugh/snort? I sorta wish Sir F and Lady M were there too!

moving on.

i am hoping it is a short meeting. he has plans to go to a party (but has already alluded that he would like to spend more time with me-whoa buddy we haven't even met-slow your roll)

i have work-then rushing to drop off a press kit-rush to moms to fix myself-rush to bar to meet him.

this is going to be interesting. and i have this blogger crew as a text message support group

i have never just been out there and "dated" i am too lazy to juggle more than one person. one is too much even at times.

but i guess i should do it: i have to-or else this blog will be dull on my part.

if i were to write a book it would be called this:

"dating with training wheels:the adventures of a recovering prude"
;) its a working title.

what would your book be called?


p.s. i hope he does not fall in "like" with me in the first 5 minutes. this has been a recent trend.

Broke Guys Vs. Cheap Guys

Post By: Lady A

When it comes to money and dating I get very uncomfy with the notion of a guy “showering’ me with $ (wow that just sounded like I am stripping and he is going to make it rain ;) 

I don’t need an over the top date at a fancy spot.
If you ask me out, yeah I sorta expect you to pay. BUT follow up date I may suggest something and therefore my treat. If your old school and also somehow you actually are doing ok in this economy and INSIST on paying-well you will get baked goods from me.

 I also don’t want to spend hundreds (nor want you to spend hundreds) on getting to know each other.Its like *boom date 5 and we realize “eh I am just not that into you” and you see you have spent all this money.

So if your taking notes: Lady A hates wasting time & money

If I know you’re flat broke, I don’t push going out or anything of the sort. I am the type of girl who will cook meals for you so you can have a home cooked meal not consisting of ramen. I dont want money to be an issue on getting to know each other.

Now for another BUT

If you get back on your feet and you go out with friends and spend money, I will safely assume I have become food&booty for you, and thus you get cut off from both. So like Ms.Erykah Badu sings..."You better call Tyrone" 

being cheap differs from being broke. and being cheap and selfish....WORSE!

Again I am not saying you have to spend a ton of dough on me, but think about it this way; that vodka/vino/coffee you drank-those meals you ate at my place- someone paid for all that. Not including the time and effort in prepping those meals. That someone is me. I am mad broke as well, but damn skippy if I like you I will split toast with you and make sure you have more butter on your side.

I have dated that cheapskates who thinks “ that Lady A, she is a nice girl-she will always be around” as they throw back drinks being out with friends.

Well guess what buddies, Lady A has this new confidence that is fierce, and the days of me waiting at home for you to take me out-no mas. Go ahead-go out and spend money frivolous But don’t expect to get any more meals/booty from me. I do too much for others to begin with; I am not going to waste my energy on you!

*Steps off high horse

Best cheap dates:
Picnics in central park
Picnics at home (trust me this was fun)
Gallery hopping (and coordinate it right and there is free wine)
Game nights (with friends)
Coffee talk and travel scrabble
Catch at a park (also a fav-pre picnic)
Making dinner together/baking together
Being tourist and exploring neighborhoods with a camera (its cheesy-but do a lil
Research before heading out and it will impress your date)
Socrates Sculpture Park in Astoria
 Bring it old school. Color together and make all kid foods(Pb&j, macNcheese, grilled cheese)

there is like a ton more stuff I bet in warmer months. For now this is the list I can come up with while I wait for my nails to dry.

My personal:
I do love a good dance night & thank goodness cover for Goth is cheap (5w/out flyer 3 with), throw in pregamming at home and a flask in my purse (ghetto but needed)

As long as you give me one night out at Goth every 3 months I promise to rock your world later when we get home ;) nothing turns me on more than dancing on the dance floor slightly tipsy w/ my eyes closed. ☺ And bonus: you get to see me in corsets, and what not.

Oatmeal Bacon Cookies(w/chocolate) vs. Creme Brulee

Post By:Lady A

so i know everyone has been telling me i am freaking out over all this for no reason.

i wish everyone could have peaked into my email pre-deletes- the emails were long,charming,witty and LONG

i decided before i started hearing *you got mail: that i would respond to everyone that emailed me, seriously thinking that i would get 5 tops/and even less once i saw the picture they picked of me *ick

but i got a ton more than i expected. so sitting down to write, i didn't want to come off as generic and wanted to respond properly.

that sorta took a toll on me. i know i "blog" about my life-truth is i keep sooooo much hidden. even my closest dearest friends have to still sit me down and pry information on how i feel. so it was hard having to share myself over and over again with each email. i would rather keep undressing and dancing in pasties and boy shorts with stockings and garters than email about myself.

the last few days i have been corresponding the most with two suitors.  they both love food

one was a chef for a few years in Italy (yeah amazing right??) when asked what his specialty is he responded with :creme brulee made with lemon zest and fresh vanilla beans: 

*my sister-cio-pets response: "does he like depeche mode-if so marry him"

the second suitor is a hyper ball of energy and by peaking at his flickr is well traveled and loves to experiment and cook. when he first shared his food pictures with me (which i guess i was more interested in seeing then of him- i am such a fat girl)  I saw the pictures and feared that he may not be red meat friendly (yeah i think it may be a deal breaker in my book) but he sent me the picture below,which is Oatmeal/Chocolate/Smoked Bacon 

so on just that alone kids i pose you this question:

oatmeal bacon cookies vs. creme brulee

btw:both these guys are in their 20's. i have not dated someone so close to my age in forever!

Love, Lady A

Lady A's Last Meal...

Post By: Lady A

I have cheated. when asked by my suitors how i would answer the question i changed it each time depending my mood. only certain things changed. so with that this is the one down and true answer:

Location: Namiquipa, Chihuahua, Mexico- Abuela Lupe's home, the courtyard (when it was all still there) i would love a crisp summer/fall day.

Time: (yes time) it would start at 1pm-9am following morning 

(btw everyone has been so morbid about reflecting and what not. somehow i just assumed it would be a huge party and i would just go home make love to my husband have him hold me and i would just never wake up-poor him he will need therapy and need to be a strong man!)

Who: Moo,Cio,PapaFrita & both sides of the family (plenty of alcohol will have to be around)

My friends, true friends, my plus one and any minis we would have created together.

Setting: long wooden tables and chairs in "el patio" candles everywhere in mason jars, fresh wild flower cut on every table, at least 4 bottles on each table at all times, Vino Tinto, Vino Verdhe y una Tequila-muy fina. (Cio-pet would choose the wines, and my Tio's the tequila)

I would want Music constantly, starting with a serenata brought to me by my husband as my 'mocos bring me cafe de la olla and a pan dulce and watch the marachis from the balcony of Tia Tere's home. 

Music at the feast of St.Lali :) would be a mash up of everything i love, but during the meal i would like tangos/flamenco and old school mexican marachi songs.  all live

ok now the feast, in no real order:

fresh tortillas-corn & flour

fresh crema

chicken hearts and gizzards in a tomato sauce

steak (med-rare for me)

tamales-all flavors made by Tia Malena

mole-all flavors

veggies of all forms how ever my tias would want to prep them

a lamb and pig roasted

arroz primavera

arroz mexicano

frijoles rancheros (made by moo)

roasted corn

roasted green onions

avocados

parilla de carne made by Abuelito Ernesto

salsas de todo

enchiladas

taquitos

flautas

 (ok this list is not even 1/2 way done-but all Mexican treats made by my family)

dessert-cio would have to make some apple crisp thingy, preserved peaches and apricots and sweet lil rolls. chocolate mint cake from moo, fresh ice cream from dad-vanilla and pistachio flavors. crepes with bananas and nutella, something decadent from NeighborBride.

ok and for the hangover everyone will have-menudo

i would sneak off at times with my husband to make love down by the river, in the woods, basically anywhere we wont get caught, but at 4 am when everyone is soo piss drunk- i would check on my mini's kiss them good night and know that their father and their Tia Cio will care for them always. My husband and i would retreat to a small house where the room will be filled with candles and the bed nice and big so we can make love one last time. and before i head off to sleep sip on crema de membrillo and feed each other fruits in between kisses. 

i have put way too much thought into this, and am way too sappy right now (not even on the rag!) 

i just love food so much!!!

truth or dare:truth

Post By: Lady A

i just had an "omg i think i drunk twittered" moment while on the phone with the VA-X.

He said something that triggered a tipsy action.

On Monday night(Tuesday morning)while I wall flowered my way through the evening somehow HolyWaters caught up to me (i am such a lightweight/cheap date its not even funny) and i must have twittered while with Sir F, Lady N and Lady B at drinks-N-wings,  i know i had moments where i was there, but not there-daydreaming.

so my "oh-shit" moment came and i logged onto twitter to see if i had written anything there (my twitter is closed to only peeps on my list-its not public)

and there it was.....dooom!!!!

 

"VivaLali:Hated tonite! Can someone just let it be ok to date the guy I like! Hit him and send him the memo that I am fabulous!!!0thanks! Ugh

1:53 AM yesterday from TwitterBerry"

yeah. thing is, he can see that message there since he is a fellow twitter. f*ck. 

so now i have to grow balls and be straight with myself on what i want and what i am willing to give and not give. 

i am doing shit 1/2 assed and thats not my 'stee. (yes quite ghetto at present)

I need to do this BEFORE i go on any dates because i do not like to waste my time nor others.

but mainly my time.

i am 28, its ok to cut ties since, lets be honest here:i have enough friends and do i really need to keep one in someone i sorta was seeing? umm no-i would rather focus on the friends i have now. 

i wish i had la right now to calm me down :( 

*break time

Post By:Lady A

I need to take a break from replying to the emails i have received from NYC's singles.

Now the emails i have received,for the most part, have not been short, they have been long. very long, like biography long. encyclopedia long (do we get the point? yes. ok moving on)

So the great thing is most of my suitors have in common: they cook, like for reals! its been a minute since i have had someone cook for me. gees, if a guy right now would make me toast i would be happy (thats sad)

They are also super witty and funny. i have been laughing out loud A LOT (well in their emails at least)

and by posting scrabble bit, i may have many many new partners (in scrabble kiddos; not in my bed)

there is one question i have been asking all of them and you should answer it as well:

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"

i decided that within the next 24hours i will say yes to one of my prospects. mainly cuz both Lady N and Sir F both have had/will have their first dates already. 

i took procrastination to the next level and gave myself a mani and pedi.

ok back to corresponding,

p.s. I need help on saying "i am just not that into you" in a very nice way. help.

BoyWonder Single!

Post By: Lady A

The Time Out New York Singles Party was this past Monday. 

My mom vetoed my dress, and actually went out and bought me a new one while i was in paperlandia

 (one which not only showed a 'healthy about of decollete but also my back tattoo :)

 paired it with beige fishnets and red round toe pumps i put on my red rouge and headed out.

when i got to the location and saw i had to wait in line,my nerves went b-a-n-a-n-a-s: not a good sign.

walking down into the location was like walking into my worst nightmare. a meat market. did i mention my 'girls were on display? ok it may have not been that bad, but i am getting old and prefer dive bars or coffee shops, or home.

i waited for Lady N to make it in, and made my way over to coat check.  it was a sea of people.instantly i started to hate myself for doing this. i met some kick ass singles who decided to wall flower it with me.

i spent most of my time nursing 'holy waters'- vodka-soda-limes. Chatted with two boys at the end of the bar, chatted with Judah Friedlander, mad cool persona-he was wall flowering it over by the bathrooms. and then i chatted with Sir F. he is another single, and i recognized him as one that Lady M noted seemed cool. 

well in real life Sir F is cool. he had ladies swarming around him. when i got to steal a moment with him, i confessed that i would rather be at home in bed reading my book. he agreed. 

i forced him to stay with me while i drank my last drink(there) and we chatted more, muisca-texas-vida. mad cool-cat.

we left and joined Lady N and Lady B(another single) for more drinks and wings.

trained it home, and like the beautiful disaster that i am i managed to mess my room up in record timing. 

it was not the best experience mainly because it was soo packed and so meat market like.

but meeting Sir F was fabulous.

So with that said: Sir F will be joining us here, and giving us a males perspective. i also hope to pick his brain on what i should and should not be saying to males. i think i tend to say inappropriate things, he may be able to help me with this.

back to painting my toenails.