BoyWonder Single!

Post By: Lady A

The Time Out New York Singles Party was this past Monday. 

My mom vetoed my dress, and actually went out and bought me a new one while i was in paperlandia

 (one which not only showed a 'healthy about of decollete but also my back tattoo :)

 paired it with beige fishnets and red round toe pumps i put on my red rouge and headed out.

when i got to the location and saw i had to wait in line,my nerves went b-a-n-a-n-a-s: not a good sign.

walking down into the location was like walking into my worst nightmare. a meat market. did i mention my 'girls were on display? ok it may have not been that bad, but i am getting old and prefer dive bars or coffee shops, or home.

i waited for Lady N to make it in, and made my way over to coat check.  it was a sea of people.instantly i started to hate myself for doing this. i met some kick ass singles who decided to wall flower it with me.

i spent most of my time nursing 'holy waters'- vodka-soda-limes. Chatted with two boys at the end of the bar, chatted with Judah Friedlander, mad cool persona-he was wall flowering it over by the bathrooms. and then i chatted with Sir F. he is another single, and i recognized him as one that Lady M noted seemed cool. 

well in real life Sir F is cool. he had ladies swarming around him. when i got to steal a moment with him, i confessed that i would rather be at home in bed reading my book. he agreed. 

i forced him to stay with me while i drank my last drink(there) and we chatted more, muisca-texas-vida. mad cool-cat.

we left and joined Lady N and Lady B(another single) for more drinks and wings.

trained it home, and like the beautiful disaster that i am i managed to mess my room up in record timing. 

it was not the best experience mainly because it was soo packed and so meat market like.

but meeting Sir F was fabulous.

So with that said: Sir F will be joining us here, and giving us a males perspective. i also hope to pick his brain on what i should and should not be saying to males. i think i tend to say inappropriate things, he may be able to help me with this.

back to painting my toenails. 

BE ON YOUR GUARD IN YOUR LATE 20s

Post By:Lady A

I am assuming that in response to this:

FaceBook status: Lady A wants to move to Portland and Drag Lady C with her. 

HF:portland????

PC:portland?? why Portland?

Lady A:they have a large art community, foodie/organic/local farmer community, its by water and mountains, and its a city.

me and the sis are trying to figure out where we would want to raise mini's as well (well she most likely will pop some out)

its a local/small town mentality in a large city.

:) that and we are Gypsies and cant settle down in one spot.

...That Lady M sent me this

please read the link.I will wait and then we can continue with my lil rant. 

Ok your done?lets continue shall we, fabulous.

Now, I am not saying I am 100% on the kid thing, it seems the older I get the more realistic I am on bringing in children into this world. but I would like to have the choice, and not be dried up.

over on Domestic & Single I have been complaining about the 30'something year olds I have been encountering in the last two years who really act what I expect 22 year olds act like. 

its not a good sign when you date guys in their late 30's and they say

 "yeah i am just hanging out, not looking for anything serious"

I agree you shouldn't "look" for anything, BUT you should be open to the idea of it.

I do not want to hear from another guy after a few months of courtship

 "I want to see what else is out there but I would still like to see you"

umm no, you can NOT have your cake and eat it too!

the article is soo true, NYC is such a hard place to date. well thats a lie, if I wanted to date, I am pretty sure I could have a different date for every meal 7 days a week. it just means I would be dating guys who:

~i am not attracted to

~i will break their hearts before the check arrives

~i can walk all over

~do not challenge me

~bore me

yeah I know, high and mighty on myself. but it is true.

I have a dirty lil secret whom I have started to fall for and I have to pull away from. he has been a secret because I did not want my friends to yell at me. and after reading the article, I realized I am wasting time.

also is it wrong if I think a man in his 30's should be living on his own? and not at home with his 'rents? I heard this on a sorta-kinda-first-encounter/date and let me tell you I wanted to call it a night right then and there; any attraction I had for him went out the window.

the guy who told me this said it was a culture thing. thing is I do not see that as an acceptable justification seeing that I am latina and independent (for the most part).

 I posed the question to some female friends and their first reactions were:

 "Is he caring for his parents?- NO? than yeah thats no good!"

I wonder how the dating scene is in Portland, thing is, I suck at dating. I am better at relationships. 

one confused and frustrated Lady A!

What I'm looking for...

Post By:Lady N

I'm not quite sure really. Lady A was making fun of my taste in men this weekend saying I like douchey guys in suits. Correction: I like assholes. A large percentage of them wear suits.

What I do like is guys who author, Toby Young, describes as "Just Gay Enough."

Read:
Appearing to be gay is such an all-round advantage in present-day Manhattan it's even an asset in the dating arena. Talk magazine ran an article in May 2000 identifying the magic ingredient that makes Jude Law, Matt Damon, and Edward Norton such heartthrobs: apparently, they're "Just Gay Enough." A female veteran of the New York dating scene was quoted describing her ideal man: "You want him to be a little gay about things. You want a lover who has pride of ownership in his house, who cooks, likes to dance, loves his mother, cares about his wardrobe and his body, but who doesn't go too far in any of those pursuits. You want him to be Just Gay Enough."

Most guys only notice T&A on a girl, completely ignoring some fashion atrocities ala Strawberry's mannequins . A guy I used to date has been known to say things like, "Is she really wearing Mudd jeans? Hi Seventh Grader." I loved him.

Last Night

Post By:Lady M

A couple of my friends and I decided to meet up and head out to a bar in Williamsburg Brooklyn called Barcade.

Some people's idea of a romantic nightspot involves candles, slow jams, and a heart-shaped box of candy. But for girls on the hunt for that elusive small-torsoed, tight-jeaned, floppy-haired species known as the Emoboyis Williamsburgus, there's no better pick-up spot than Barcade.- NYMAG

A bar that has arcade games, awesome microbrews, AND ' Emoboyis Williamsburgus'. Too good to be true right? I was pleasently surprised as the review stayed true to fact and found some hottie bespectacled men playing pacman as soon as I entered the bar. I've found that there's a diffrence between the quality of men that prowl the bar scene in Manhattan as opposed to Brooklynite men. Brooklyn men tend to usually be overly educated, cultured, into art, books, bourban, sarcasm, and shows. Guys who hang in the city can easily be spotted wearing collard shirts and they travel in packs with their, 'bros'. They are what you call 'Metrosexuals'. Now, from my expereince it's best to stay far away from these types are they are not interested in having any sort of inteligent conversation with the lady species. I understand that I'm making a generalization here but any NYC lady will agree with me on the dochefactor of these metrosexuals. My suggestion is to venture out into Brooklyn and catch yourself a hottie, floppy-haired, bespecatcled nerd as I did last night.