Keep It Cheap?

Post By:Sir F

As it stated in the issue, I am unemployed and very broke. I made enough money last week from selling a bunch of my DVDs (it broke my heart to sell a lot of those DVDs) to get me by a little but I spent too much on Monday night at the mixer so now funds are almost gone and I only have about 2 days of work coming up next week (and the money I will not see for 2 weeks after that which will probably be $150 at most).

So my question is this, ladies...
When is a cheap date too cheap?

People always say there's fun stuff you can do for Free, but we all know that alcohol eventually comes into play and there's never just one drink.

I've had dates before where they would insist on paying for the date, but I could definitely feel that hesitation and the feeling of "I shouldn't have to be doing this". It makes me feel terrible and I HATE doing that. I become annoyingly apologetic and the whole time I keep thinking, "You're a creep! Wash dishes or work fast food if you're this bad off, ya jerk"! And then my date is left wondering why I'm muttering to myself and occasionally punching myself viciously in the stomach.

Have you ladies ever had a good cheap date? When does it start to become annoying when the guy just doesn't have the cash to throw around? Does this beard make me look stupid? Who wants ice cream?!

Keep it real, boo

Response

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"


Well, I'll start my answer by telling you all what Bourdain's last meal would be; The roasted bone marrow at St. John restaurant in London.

I'm more of a breakfast person really so I would say that my last meal would be a 'Baliada' which is a concoction made up of a flour tortilla, refried red beans, and mantequilla crema (similar to sour cream). Sometimes scrambled eggs are added as well. It's a simple yet amazingly delicious meal. Others would call it hangover food. Similar to that 3am slice of pizza you have after a night of debauchery. I would share it with my family and friends of course and I would most likely eat it on the sofa watching Rock of Love Bus.


If I were to ask my potential suitors one question it would be :

Marty Mcfly lent you the keys to the DeLorean. Where in time are you taking me on our first date?

truth or dare:truth

Post By: Lady A

i just had an "omg i think i drunk twittered" moment while on the phone with the VA-X.

He said something that triggered a tipsy action.

On Monday night(Tuesday morning)while I wall flowered my way through the evening somehow HolyWaters caught up to me (i am such a lightweight/cheap date its not even funny) and i must have twittered while with Sir F, Lady N and Lady B at drinks-N-wings,  i know i had moments where i was there, but not there-daydreaming.

so my "oh-shit" moment came and i logged onto twitter to see if i had written anything there (my twitter is closed to only peeps on my list-its not public)

and there it was.....dooom!!!!

 

"VivaLali:Hated tonite! Can someone just let it be ok to date the guy I like! Hit him and send him the memo that I am fabulous!!!0thanks! Ugh

1:53 AM yesterday from TwitterBerry"

yeah. thing is, he can see that message there since he is a fellow twitter. f*ck. 

so now i have to grow balls and be straight with myself on what i want and what i am willing to give and not give. 

i am doing shit 1/2 assed and thats not my 'stee. (yes quite ghetto at present)

I need to do this BEFORE i go on any dates because i do not like to waste my time nor others.

but mainly my time.

i am 28, its ok to cut ties since, lets be honest here:i have enough friends and do i really need to keep one in someone i sorta was seeing? umm no-i would rather focus on the friends i have now. 

i wish i had la right now to calm me down :( 

*break time

Post By:Lady A

I need to take a break from replying to the emails i have received from NYC's singles.

Now the emails i have received,for the most part, have not been short, they have been long. very long, like biography long. encyclopedia long (do we get the point? yes. ok moving on)

So the great thing is most of my suitors have in common: they cook, like for reals! its been a minute since i have had someone cook for me. gees, if a guy right now would make me toast i would be happy (thats sad)

They are also super witty and funny. i have been laughing out loud A LOT (well in their emails at least)

and by posting scrabble bit, i may have many many new partners (in scrabble kiddos; not in my bed)

there is one question i have been asking all of them and you should answer it as well:

"If you could plan your last meal, what would it be? who would prepare it? who would you share it with? where would you have it? and why to all of the above"

i decided that within the next 24hours i will say yes to one of my prospects. mainly cuz both Lady N and Sir F both have had/will have their first dates already. 

i took procrastination to the next level and gave myself a mani and pedi.

ok back to corresponding,

p.s. I need help on saying "i am just not that into you" in a very nice way. help.

The Fine Art of Blah Blah Blah (blog)

Post By:Sir F

Well what do we have here? A blog for those who have been put on public display and have had the floodgates of strange and unusual e-mails thrust upon us! Ok, maybe not thrust since we willingly (just barely for some) took part in the Time Out New York feature. Wait... I just typed thrust and avoided an easy sexual innuendo. Wait...scratch that. There I go again. Why, hello ladies!

Lame.

OK, moving on...

I'm happy to be contributing to this blog. I met these lovely ladies at the TONY mixer and clicked instantly with them (at least I thought so). These women are awesome and deserve some bitchin' dudes to date them (yes, I talk like this).

So far I've received about 20 e-mails, which blows my mind considering I didn't hide my love for Ghostbusters, Gremlins and mid-90's Winona Ryder. I would say about 80% of the e-mails were pretty wacky. It doesn't surprise me since I put my "geekiness" out there on the table. There might be a fine line between geeky and "geeky", but that line is there. I don't think there's a train that goes to Middle-earth, ya dig? High Five! I'm an ass.

I'm new to this whole online dating thing, but shouldn't it be common knowledge to send a picture with an e-mail? And on top of that, wouldn't you want to find the most flattering or semi-flattering picture of yourself? A friend of mine told me that sending a picture with an e-mail is much like if you were at a bar and someone approached you. As much as you'd like to think you're not shallow, you do size up and know if this person is appealing to you or not and if you want to spend time getting to know that person. It's awkward for all involved if you end up sending a picture later only to not have that person respond back after initial correspondence. It just saves time and hassle. That's really all I have to say on that.

I have my first "date" tomorrow night. More of a meet up. Just a friendly chat. I will post about it on Friday.

Glad to be here. Hope I didn't come off as a giant jerk. I'm only slightly awful (ask my kids I abandoned).

Happy Dating, Friends! Please don't die!

BoyWonder Single!

Post By: Lady A

The Time Out New York Singles Party was this past Monday. 

My mom vetoed my dress, and actually went out and bought me a new one while i was in paperlandia

 (one which not only showed a 'healthy about of decollete but also my back tattoo :)

 paired it with beige fishnets and red round toe pumps i put on my red rouge and headed out.

when i got to the location and saw i had to wait in line,my nerves went b-a-n-a-n-a-s: not a good sign.

walking down into the location was like walking into my worst nightmare. a meat market. did i mention my 'girls were on display? ok it may have not been that bad, but i am getting old and prefer dive bars or coffee shops, or home.

i waited for Lady N to make it in, and made my way over to coat check.  it was a sea of people.instantly i started to hate myself for doing this. i met some kick ass singles who decided to wall flower it with me.

i spent most of my time nursing 'holy waters'- vodka-soda-limes. Chatted with two boys at the end of the bar, chatted with Judah Friedlander, mad cool persona-he was wall flowering it over by the bathrooms. and then i chatted with Sir F. he is another single, and i recognized him as one that Lady M noted seemed cool. 

well in real life Sir F is cool. he had ladies swarming around him. when i got to steal a moment with him, i confessed that i would rather be at home in bed reading my book. he agreed. 

i forced him to stay with me while i drank my last drink(there) and we chatted more, muisca-texas-vida. mad cool-cat.

we left and joined Lady N and Lady B(another single) for more drinks and wings.

trained it home, and like the beautiful disaster that i am i managed to mess my room up in record timing. 

it was not the best experience mainly because it was soo packed and so meat market like.

but meeting Sir F was fabulous.

So with that said: Sir F will be joining us here, and giving us a males perspective. i also hope to pick his brain on what i should and should not be saying to males. i think i tend to say inappropriate things, he may be able to help me with this.

back to painting my toenails. 

"whose that girl?? ohhh and who is that boy??????"

Post By:Lady A, Lady N, Lady M & Sir F

Who are we you ask?

Lady A:

My style in 10 words or less:
Rockabilly-Housewife meets sophisticated goth. Sucker for garters/stockings and heels!

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Making adventures out of every day events.

About me:
I am a lil ball of happy energy. An insomniac that loves sleep. Way too sarcastic for my own good. I strive to be a mix of Martha Stewart/Frida Kahlo/Bettie Page. I check out books from the library & watch PBS. I like holding hands and laughing so hard I snort. I want someone who doesn't play games, unless the game is scrabble. Not into showy flashy guys, BUT I do enjoy good manners and non-picky eaters

Lady N:

My style in 10 words or less:

Contradicting. Edgy and girly

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:

Glass is half empty. Bartender, can I have another?

About me:
I’m pretty goofy, read a lot of books, swim every day, and have a weak spot for online shopping and dirty martinis. I have a tendency to say inappropriate things at the dinner table. I’m really great at doing imitations of people. I never know the words to any songs. Looking for someone who has a sarcastic sense of humor and isn’t afraid to bust my balls and call me out on my bullshit.

Lady M:
My style in 10 words or less:
A punk rock femme inteligista who enjoys whisky, vinyl, and leather jackets.

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Live fast, and leave your inhibitions at the door.

About me:
I’m not your run of the average NYC girl clone. I like spending my nights rummaging through record collections and watching old movies. I’m that chick you call up when you want to take a last minute road trip to Graceland at 3am. I like books and I’m not talking about Oprah’s book club picks either. B- horror movies and funny guys melt my heart and if they dance even better.

AND

Sir F:

My style in 10 words or less:
laid-back but not borderline homeless chic

My outlook on life in 10 words or less:
Everything happens for a reason. Life’s what you make it.

About me:
I’m pretty laid-back and easygoing. I study and perform improv and sketch comedy at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre and around town. A great sense of humor is important. Ghost Busters and Gremlins are the two greatest films ever made. Believe it. What am I ideally looking for? Winona Ryder. Circa ’94–’95. Let’s see if this works. They make time machines, right?

*heart, 

Your ladies AND gentleman

Lady A, Lady N, Lady M and Sir F