truth or dare:truth

Post By: Lady A

i just had an "omg i think i drunk twittered" moment while on the phone with the VA-X.

He said something that triggered a tipsy action.

On Monday night(Tuesday morning)while I wall flowered my way through the evening somehow HolyWaters caught up to me (i am such a lightweight/cheap date its not even funny) and i must have twittered while with Sir F, Lady N and Lady B at drinks-N-wings,  i know i had moments where i was there, but not there-daydreaming.

so my "oh-shit" moment came and i logged onto twitter to see if i had written anything there (my twitter is closed to only peeps on my list-its not public)

and there it was.....dooom!!!!

 

"VivaLali:Hated tonite! Can someone just let it be ok to date the guy I like! Hit him and send him the memo that I am fabulous!!!0thanks! Ugh

1:53 AM yesterday from TwitterBerry"

yeah. thing is, he can see that message there since he is a fellow twitter. f*ck. 

so now i have to grow balls and be straight with myself on what i want and what i am willing to give and not give. 

i am doing shit 1/2 assed and thats not my 'stee. (yes quite ghetto at present)

I need to do this BEFORE i go on any dates because i do not like to waste my time nor others.

but mainly my time.

i am 28, its ok to cut ties since, lets be honest here:i have enough friends and do i really need to keep one in someone i sorta was seeing? umm no-i would rather focus on the friends i have now. 

i wish i had la right now to calm me down :( 

BE ON YOUR GUARD IN YOUR LATE 20s

Post By:Lady A

I am assuming that in response to this:

FaceBook status: Lady A wants to move to Portland and Drag Lady C with her. 

HF:portland????

PC:portland?? why Portland?

Lady A:they have a large art community, foodie/organic/local farmer community, its by water and mountains, and its a city.

me and the sis are trying to figure out where we would want to raise mini's as well (well she most likely will pop some out)

its a local/small town mentality in a large city.

:) that and we are Gypsies and cant settle down in one spot.

...That Lady M sent me this

please read the link.I will wait and then we can continue with my lil rant. 

Ok your done?lets continue shall we, fabulous.

Now, I am not saying I am 100% on the kid thing, it seems the older I get the more realistic I am on bringing in children into this world. but I would like to have the choice, and not be dried up.

over on Domestic & Single I have been complaining about the 30'something year olds I have been encountering in the last two years who really act what I expect 22 year olds act like. 

its not a good sign when you date guys in their late 30's and they say

 "yeah i am just hanging out, not looking for anything serious"

I agree you shouldn't "look" for anything, BUT you should be open to the idea of it.

I do not want to hear from another guy after a few months of courtship

 "I want to see what else is out there but I would still like to see you"

umm no, you can NOT have your cake and eat it too!

the article is soo true, NYC is such a hard place to date. well thats a lie, if I wanted to date, I am pretty sure I could have a different date for every meal 7 days a week. it just means I would be dating guys who:

~i am not attracted to

~i will break their hearts before the check arrives

~i can walk all over

~do not challenge me

~bore me

yeah I know, high and mighty on myself. but it is true.

I have a dirty lil secret whom I have started to fall for and I have to pull away from. he has been a secret because I did not want my friends to yell at me. and after reading the article, I realized I am wasting time.

also is it wrong if I think a man in his 30's should be living on his own? and not at home with his 'rents? I heard this on a sorta-kinda-first-encounter/date and let me tell you I wanted to call it a night right then and there; any attraction I had for him went out the window.

the guy who told me this said it was a culture thing. thing is I do not see that as an acceptable justification seeing that I am latina and independent (for the most part).

 I posed the question to some female friends and their first reactions were:

 "Is he caring for his parents?- NO? than yeah thats no good!"

I wonder how the dating scene is in Portland, thing is, I suck at dating. I am better at relationships. 

one confused and frustrated Lady A!