The e-mails are still coming...

And the girls are getting cuter and cuter.
Uh oh.

Ugh.

I should not be given so much freedom with options! OVERLOAD! OVERLOAD!

Restraint.

I said I was done and I will be so.

Erasing PastaBoy

Post By:Lady A

PastaBoy:

Plans for 12:30.

Location secured.

I arrive at 12:23.

I leave at 1:06.

I sent him a text to say that I have arrived and if i should secure a table.

No reply.

No text/call.

I get a table, thinking he may just be late and what not, no biggie-order a cappachino.

I text the dating-is-stupid support group.

"wait a bit longer he may be in the train" (he works walking distance)

"shit! call him!" (i did-and refused to call more than once)

I pulled out laptop and continued working on some "real" writing. (10 more minutes-tops)

when it reached 1:03pm, I put my things away and got up and walked out.

 

the waiter couldn't even say anything to me, just a small "awww-poor you-smile"

i was not visibly upset.

no, Lady A could NOT lose her temper twice in one week.

Saturday was enough.

I had ordered a coffee which was "on the house"- yay a free coffee. is that the silver lining?

If it had been the secret I would be worried something happened to him. knowing he has a shit phone and knowing that he would have manners.

but this was a first date.

a guy who asked me out. 

i went through the list of things that may have occurred:

a)he got cold feet (hello its just date 1,i just wanted pasta, not to marry you!!)

b)he passed by and realized that he "just is not that into me"

 (again-do you even know how to say my name properly??JUST MET)

c)he was asked to join the Ghost Busters and protect the Island from an invasion of slimy

    ghost!(Sir F can we have a marathon of ghosts??)

d)he was so excited to see me, he fell hit his head and is laying in a coma at some UES hospital

or 

e) he is an asshole

the correct answer is E.

he called me hours later, I was working already: he apologized over and over again. he was held up in a meeting, he didn't have my number on him blah blah blah

I was calm, did not say much.

he asked me out again, "i will come to Astoria-i will make it up to you"

umm hello, NO! 

"I am sorry we weren't able to meet, but i cant see you. the very least you could have excused yourself phoned the restaurant and left me a message. THAT i would have understood."

*click-dial tone.

i don't think i even said goodbye.

actually the conversation was quick and swift and i am still trying to block it out, so the details are fuzzy.

i received a few text and a voicemail i have yet to hear.

i really wish i could say this was the first time i was stood up, but sadly it is not. 

i think that is also why i flipped out so much last sabado. being stood up sucks.

*le sigh.

RIP PastaBoy. i wish you had joined GhostBusters instead, :(

text gone wrong

Post By:Lady A

I am hating text today.

I am hating my BB today.

anyone who knows me, knows I avoid saying the word HATE in any context.

Have you ever:

.....written a text,and instead of sending it to the person for whom it was intended for you sent it to the person you were thinking of/mentioning in the text?

I just did that. Now, Just to show that i do have things very private in my life, in the text i did not mention names, just a nickname-which re-reading makes this situation even worse. But my friends 1/2 the time do not know certain details, and know i am not willing to share them.

they also are cool enough to focus on :is Lady A happy? or is she upset?:

not to sweat the details.

somehow i am feeling like the boy in this situation and feel horrible. 

did i confuse you? good-i just confused myself.

Time is so not on my side. 

and p.s. kiddos-i have a date Sunday-if this is a bust (which how this TONY thing has been it may just be) i am done with it, for realz

"SHE's just not that into you..."

Post by:Lady A

...is that what guys/gals will be telling my suitors??

i mean how do i nicely, without hurting feelings, say :i am not that into you:

i am in the same boat with Sir F. i want to quit TONY, i am STILL getting emails,STILL!! 

(ok yeah you can so be like "shut up Lady A" right now)

truth is, i am not used to this attention. and i must be sending off a "single" vibe because PastaBoy came up to me on the train.

its the emails. its the corresponding. its the length of the said emails. its the amount of time in asking and answering questions.

i have a "top 3" which is now down to just one. mainly because i am lazy, and being a  procrastinator 

(i told you i am a lazy dater- i have done my nails TWICE in the span of a week-never do i do that!)

this "1" from TONY seems great on emails. lets hope there is a spark. but i learned last week that without spark.....i am not going to even consider a 2nd date. i don't want to waste my (or their time)

also. i kinda like someone *shhh its a secret.

and while timing has not been our friend. i am having a blast when i do see him. i mean, i light up like 4th of july fireworks when he cracks a joke.

yes, we have chemistry AND he makes me laugh=dead sexiness and then there is the 

"oh yeah, i like you"

but in the past i would have wall flowered,stuck around waiting for the time to be perfect. that got me no where, and those guys were all over the place, so this time, i will keep a lil white picket fence up with a lock, but its not a master lock and he is tall so he could just jump the fence. 

metaphor gone too long....

....moving on.

i am meeting PastaBoy for lunch manana: he choose a location which i have been wanting to try (which a co-worker of mine said was fabulous) i may even text them and have them "walk by' to check him out if they are able to.

i have drinks with my #1TONY pick before he leaves for LA (date tbd, but i assume next week)

*le sigh

my brain is full. i think i will start sharing my horrible limited dating experiences so you kids can have a chuckle. anyone ever met someone's 'rents on the first date? yeah well i have.

for now:

i wish Lady N some luck in sparks:

i wish Lady M some great vibes from CLpunkDude

i wish Sir F suerte with TheaterChica, and a hug. *i am overwhelmed as well. its ok. your still mad hotCUTEawesomeADORABLEtalentedSPECIALfunnyCARING and someone will fall into your life when needed!!!

(did i gas up your head enough???!!)

besos babies!!!

Craigslist Update

So, Mr. Craigslist just responded with this :

Well hello love and thanks for the replay

Yes... lets hang 10 this weekend. Im also free most nights after 6:30.
Hmmm why is such a cute girl like you single?

Will


He has yet to find out that I'm really a two headed monster..





He also responded with his myspace and dear sweet LORD was I surprised. He's a REALLY HOT MENZ, just my type really. I scoped out some of his pictures that he had. He was in a band, has some bangin tats, and beautiful eyes. ANYWAY, enough of my rambling...ha. It's a date this Friday and I'm nervous but really flippin excited at the same time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHH!!! This weekend is going to be stock full of awesome sauce!!

I think I'm done with this whole TONY dating thing

Post By: Sir F
I thought about this a lot today. I've had a lot to think about lately. It was fun getting the e-mails and going on the few dates I had, but I think I'm done with it.

I don't mean to be so cryptic, but I really don't think it's a good idea I continue.

Will this mean I'll stop blogging here? No.

But I think I'm going to e-mail these ladies and cancel.

Shit just gets so busy and I don't have the proper time. Plus a prospect at the theatre has grown more, so...yeah.

Doesn't mean I will cancel plans to hang out with the lovely ladies on this blog. Why? Because they're super fuckin' awesome people and I want to hang with them because it's hard to find good people to share these life experiences with.

Sir F is done with TONY dating.

Marginally bearable P

I met up with, god what the fuck is his name....Oh right, P, the klutzy Brit. We were going to meet in the Upper East since I had dinner plans up there afterwards and it was his neighborhood. We met on the corner and he looked up at the bar we were standing next to and said, "How about here?" I thought to myself, "Really? You live in this neighborhood and didn't have a place already picked out in your head?" It was a little bright for my taste, especially for a blind meet up, I didn't really want too many people to be able to see us. He noticed my hesitation and suggested we take a quick walk to see what else there was. We walked past Brother Jimmy's and while I was smirking to myself because a guy I used to date lived above this bar and we had many "last drinks" there, P stopped and looked back at the bar and said, "How about here?" I couldn't hide the snobby "you've got to be fucking kidding me" expression on my face. Bro J's is ok when you're hammered and having one more drink before you go upstairs to shag your man, but NOT ok for a first date! He said lets just go back to the first place and I agreed, just wanting to get out of the freezing cold.

To sum it up, he turned out to be a bit awkward in person and while he asked great questions and we had some things in common, I couldn't help but feel the strong urge to look at my blackberry and see if any of my other suitors had emailed me. Not a good sign. While he was talking I Iooked past his head, longingly at the glowing orange Brother Jimmy's sign and wished I was sitting across from J (the former man) instead. I was so relieved that I had dinner plans afterwards because 50 minutes was just on the line of bearable, 51 would have tipped it over to the -un side.

P texted me today to say he had a great time and hoped to see me again soon. Really? Why is it that only the ones you're not interested in are the ones that call?